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True Friends Tell YOU the Truth!

We must be careful that we don’t stuff our lives full of “yes” people. To do so leaves us vulnerable to our blind spots and shortcomings.

 
But to encourage people to speak into lives, we must stretch ourselves and grow spiritually so we can hear and digest honest feedback. We can’t be so emotionally fragile that we overact when people generously share their wisdom, insight, and advice with us about us. If so, we will miss out on valuable information WE NEED to advance to our lives, careers, and our families. It does not matter how successful we are or have been; we will always need new lessons to leverage us and lift us so that we can SOAR to our highest potential.!
 
 
Oscar Wilde said it best when he said that “true friend stabs you in the front.” True Friends!!!! True friends share their perspectives and assessments to your face. They don’t hide from the truth. They don’t coddle or cater to you; they correct you and challenge you. They provide direction to help discipline and develop you. Real friends invest in your dreams, and the most courageous and effective investment is the TRUTH!
 
Do you have friends who tell you the truth? Friends who are strategic help us Get UnStuck. 
 
We will be sharing more about the power of friendship in the upcoming weeks.
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SharRon
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Break Some Rules and Fix Your Life!

 You may need to BREAK some rules to FIX your life.

 

Since we arrived on the planet, we have been taught rules about what to believe, how to behave, how to love and how to live.

 

Those rules trapped us in traditions, paradigms, and policies that prevented us from knowing who we really were and what we were designed to do.

 

In many ways, the rules restricted us, and in some ways reduced US to be the lowest version of ourselves!

 

Some rules were created to make you:

 

Predictable, not Purposeful!
Fearful, not Faithful!
Miserable, not Masterful!
Gullible, not Grateful!
Forgetful, not Fruitful!
Shameful, not Successful!
Reprehensible, not Respectful!
Hateful, not Helpful!
Despicable not Desirable!
Vengeful, not Valuable!
Loathful, not Lovable!

 

But NO MORE!!! I am committed to breaking every rule that fails to honor me and fails to honor the divinity of humanity. 
Let’s break some rules!! Let’s create what we need to SOAR!

 

It’s time to break a few rules and FIX YOUR LIFE so that your life reflects your divine design, destiny, and your divinity.

 

 

 

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Does Your Journey Inspire?

Even if your journey is hard, people who are willing to invest in themselves will join you. They will pull up their sleeves, pick up their pens, take off their pumps, remove their jackers, overcome their personal biases, and adjust their schedules to join you.

 

But you must show your journey – the good, bad and the ugly. If not, you will not inspire people to journey with you. You will inspire them to take advantage of you, to manipulate the system, to steal from others and to find shortcuts.

 

Let people see what it takes. Don’t give them a false perception of your reality. Let them see the tears, the tribulations, the triumphs and the transitions required to pursue purpose. Let them hear your woes, see your wounds and also experience your wins. Let them feel the heat of your height so that they can prepare for their own elevation. If not, they will not be prepared for the struggle, sacrifice and shuffling the journey requires.

 

Show it! Show enough to inspire those we are really ready for the journey. The exposure will let them see what it takes to SOAR!

 

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher Together!

 

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Close or Connected?

 

You need people; nobody does anything great alone.

 

If you build a business, promote an organization, become an employee or even marry someone you love, you will need help.

 

You will need wisdom that you don’t have, you will need resources that you don’t have and sometimes you will need faith that you don’t have. Needing something from others does NOT mean that you are weak; it means that you are human. God designed us to be interdependent!

 

But, you MUST be discerning. Everybody does not nor can they handle access to you. Some people are incapable of maintaining confidentiality, honoring your vulnerability, respecting your boundaries or cherishing your intimacy. Some people don’t have the capacity nor the self-mastery to enter the inner sanctums of your life. If does not make them bad people. However, it does disqualify them from being close.

 

Your success will require that you work with all types of people. You can’t be, start or lead an international movement with a “insular” mentality. You can NOT be fruitful if you are limited to who and where you can effectively function.

 

Beloved, you deserve success, and your success will DEMAND that you are discerning with your relationships, especially in a fast-paced, complex, technologically-driven, interconnected economy and world. Your success will DEMAND that you check in with yourself FIRST before you check out others.

 

The truth is this: You can be connected with somebody and work with them. That’s called maturity. But, you don’t have to be emotionally close and invite them into personal places that they are not spiritually nor emotionally equipped to dwell.

 

2019 is YOUR year! Get connected so that you can grow, flow and sow! But reserve your “closeness” for those who deserve to know YOU because they have done the work to truly know, love and master themselves.

 

It’s time to SOAR HIGHER!

( excerpt from Dare to Soar Higher 2)

 

Blessings!

 

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Stop Cutting The Ones Who Care!

One of the things that I have learned as a life strategist is that NEW relationship problems are usually the result of deep-rooted, unresolved issues from OLD relationships.

 

For example, some of the challenges that we experience with our new jobs can be traced back to unresolved problems and unaddressed issues with former employers,  previous coworkers or an ex-boss.

 

Some issues with our the new spouse, new partner or new crush can easily be traced back to the issues that we have not admitted, processed or even discussed with our ex-lovers, ex-partners, ourselves and sometimes, even our parents.

 

Some of the challenges that we have making new friends can be traced back to our old feelings of not being seen, not feeling heard or not being cared for in a way that made us feel valued, respected, safe and loved.

 

Some of the difficulties that we have collaborating with people today are because somewhere in our lives we felt invisible, insecure, overpowered and undermined when we tried to contribute and share.

 

Some of the problems that we have with organized religions are because we sometimes allow ourselves to be spiritually crammed and emotionally incarcerated into rules, rituals, and regulations that we don’t believe or ascribe to yet feel powerless to change.

 

And since we have never adequately or thoroughly examined the ROOT of our inability or unwillingness to connect with others or ourselves in meaningful and life-giving ways, we are left feeling isolated, alienated and rejected. We become bloated with bitterness, resentment, and anger. We become cynical, defensive and unavailable, and we cut ourselves off from what we want and need the most —- a sense of belonging.

 

But until our wounds are addressed in ways that bring closure or healing, we deny ourselves of healthy and loving connections that provide the support we need, the acceptance that we crave and the recognition that we desire. And most of all—-we suffer!

 

We suffer in silence suffocated by our secrets and sidelined by our inability or unwillingness to reach out for support. We retreat into self-made and self-imposed prisons in an attempt to conceal our pain and “armor up” our lives in a futile effort to protect ourselves from anticipated threats.

 

We wrap our lives in old stories, bury our talents under old narratives, create our perspectives in dirty filters,  trap ourselves in societal acceptability, and hold others hostage to expectations and assumptions in our attempts to control and manipulate every engagement, interaction, and every experience we have.

 

We exhaust ourselves by acting, lying, shapeshifting and people-pleasing until we deplete, dilute or diminish who we are.

 

We betray ourselves and our needs. We don’t give ourselves permission to be vulnerable, intimate or honest so that we can experience the richness of others, nor experience the richness and depth of our own souls.

 

In fact, we attack people who even try to befriend, respect and love us.  Like wounded animals, we strike out at the first “perceived” attack, offense or insult.

 

We test people. We try people. We tempt people.  We trick people. We secretly put people on “trial” to see how much of our bad behavior they will endure before they leave. And when they leave, we blame them for abandoning us without taking an honest assessment of how we contributed to the demise of the relationship.

 

But what if we decided to stop blaming others for the death of our relationships and really evaluate ourselves? What if we owned our old stories that contaminated our new connections? What if we dissected our behaviors and beliefs and identified the root of our frustration and irritation with others? What if we admitted that we were emotionally injured and that we are cutting those who are closest to us because we lack the courage to confront those who hurt us the most?

 

What if?

 

What if we decided to look in the mirror and admit what’s really going on, or what happened, or what we fear will happen?

 

What if?

 

Our lives would be different. Not perfect, but different. But different… for many of us would be a step in the right direction.

 

So, what can we do?

 

We can DARE TO BE DIFFERENT!  Click here: http://bit.ly/DareToBeME

(except from soon-to-be-released  Deciding To Soar 2)

 

As you are thinking about what you want most in 2019, make sure you download my free e-book, “Know What’s Best For You”. It has questions to help you think about what is really going on in your life.

 

Blessings!

 

SharRon

 

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It’s Time For YOU To Conduct A “Friend” Inventory!

If you have heard me speak this year, you have probably heard me say that everything is created, cared for and cultivated on “ships.” EVERYTHING!

 

Yes, our “ships” influence and affect our lives. It does not matter if it is a partnership, fellowship, companionship, mentorship, sponsorship, relationship, distributorship, friendship, citizenship, “situationship”, and the list goes on…our lives are touched and shaped by others. Even when we are not aware of it, we are somehow informed, energized, challenged or repulsed by the words and ways of others.   Everybody leaves an impression, good or bad,  in our lives.

 

Because our connections are critical, it is vital that we analyze who we spend time with, who we seek wisdom from and who we allow in our intimate space. And as we elevate our lives or shift our priorities, we may need to adjust and re-adjust where and with whom we spend our time and share our energy.

 

Let’s be honest. That’s hard for some of us. Evaluating or repositioning our relationships brings up all types of emotional baggage, feelings of abandonment and childhood triggers. That’s why we sometimes stay tethered to connections that are toxic, abusive and lifeless. 

 

Here is something to consider: Making adjustments or analyzing your relationships does NOT mean that you don’t love or like people.

 

Adjusting and evaluating your relationships mean that are you committed to your OWN growth, self-care, and elevation. It means that you are being intentional about your time because you NEED new experiences, different information and increased exposure to opportunities, so you can plan, position and prepare yourself for what’s NEXT in your life. Scrutinizing your connections means that you are cognizant that you have limited time and only so much energy and that everyone you connect with must be beneficial and fruitful to your life.  Essentially, ensuring that you are surrounded and supported by a healthy network is an act of SELF LOVE!

 

Here is the bottom line: Growth does NOT happen in isolation, in stagnation or in the wrong congregation. Growth happens in stimulating and safe environments that are replete with rich diversity, great dialogue, and vigorous debate.

 

That’s why we NEED conversations that challenge our thinking. We need to attend events that expand our minds, touch our souls and frame our dreams. We need to be pushed, pulled and poured into in ways that increase our competence, capacity, and our curiosity. We need connections that hold us responsible and accountable to HIGH standards.

 

We need to SEE and EXPERIENCE MORE because our lives develop or diminish based on what we know, what we think, what we do and what we are exposed to.

 

What’s the take-home message? We can’t SOAR if we don’t know MORE!

 

That approach sounds simple but learning and doing MORE demand that we develop relationships for where we are going, not where we are now.

 

As you enter 2019, and before you make another resolution, take inventory of your connections.  Find a quiet place and start with 3 simple questions.

 

  1. How is this connection helping me SEE me better, differently or fuller?
  2. How is this connection supporting me now, who I am becoming and my vision for the future?
  3. How is this connection strengthening, stretching or shifting me?

 

There are more questions to ponder, but these  3 questions should get you started. My new e-book, Know What’s Best For You, has tons of questions too. It’s FREE so download it today! It also comes with a free video series entitled, Walk Away.

 

Our relationships are our greatest resources. So, pay attention. Choose relationships that grow you up, grow you out and grow you within. That way you can be better equipped to SOAR Higher in 2019.

 

Let me hear from you. Please leave a message below.

 

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher!

 

SharRon

 

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Don’t Wait Too Long!

Let’s be honest…..sometimes people cross the line. They make comments that feel degrading or they do things that feel demeaning. But when they do cross the line, speak up immediately. Don’t wait!

 

Why? Sometimes if you wait too long you will say too much. You will explode and make harsh statements that could irrevocably damage the relationship.

 

Yes, people will get on your nerves, I mean, your LAST good nerve. But often times they don’t realize that they have encroached on your boundaries. Remember, we all are different. A gesture that may be considered an INVITATION to one person MAY feel like a VIOLATION to another person.

 

So, speak up. Honor your feelings. Approach the conversation in a spirit of curiosity so that you can learn more about their intentions. After you understand their motives, then make a decision.

 

Remember….Seek to understand FIRST! Don’t let arrogance or ignorance ruin your relationships.

 

Do yourself a favor. Speak up quickly. Say what you need to say. Learn what you need to learn. And then, SOAR!

( from my upcoming book, Deciding To Soar 2)

 

It’s Time To Soar HIGHER!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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BE YOU!!!

There will always be someone who will attempt to control, cage and change you.

 

They will try to manipulate you and when that doesn’t work, they will malign you.

 

They will criticize you and when that doesn’t work they will castigate you.

 

They will ridicule you and when that doesn’t work they will reject you.

 

They will lie on you and when that doesn’t work they will label you.

 

They will blackmail you and when that doesn’t work they will try to blackball you.

 

They will slander you and when that doesn’t work they will sabotage you.

 

They will condemn you and when that doesn’t work they will attempt to politically cripple you.

 

They will you hinder and when that doesn’t work they will try to hurt you.

 

They will intimidate you and when that doesn’t work they will try to incarcerate you.

 

They will derail you and when that doesn’t work, they will attempt to destroy you.

 

They will threaten you and when that doesn’t work, they will terrorize you.

 

When their damnable, serpentine measures don’t work, they WILL get dirtier, more salacious and just more low-down.

 

But, DO NOT be scared or concerned!  Don’t Panic! Their tactics will fail.

 

I have learned that when you are in the will of GOD, “no weapon formed against you will prosper”.

 

God created you to be who you ARE!!! Nobody else gets a vote.

 

Don’t let their fingerprints corrupt your divine blueprint!

 

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher!

 

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Get YOUR P.O.W. Back!

 

If you are like most, you are probably stunned that we are in October. I don’t know if it is age or something else, but time is moving faster and faster as the years go by, right?

 

Over the last couple of weeks,  I have been doing some pruning. Why? Because my life got too busy.  And so, I took some time to downsize some relationships, refocus my energy and reprioritize some activities so I could concentrate on being more productive, and more FULFILLED!

 

Yes, I had to take a step back because I lost my P.O.W.!

 

You know…..your P.O.W. – that feeling of enthusiasm, zest, bliss and alignment that makes you excited about getting up in the morning? That feeling that makes you feel as if you are in your flow, gaining momentum and pursuing your purpose. That feeling that makes you feel seen in a way that honors your very soul. I am not sure what other people call that feeling….I call it my P.O.W.—short for my power.

 

Have you ever lost your P.O.W.?

 

I didn’t realize that I was losing my P.O.W. at first, because the loss was gradual. Months of fatigue, frustration, and overwhelm slowly sapped and siphoned my energy away from my goals. I lost my joy and my mojo. And, I was left feeling physically, spiritually and emotionally exhausted.

 

At first, I tried to rationalize my feelings of lethargy, but the evidence was clear……..  I was doing too much of the right thing, and I was doing way too much of the wrong thing. I was out of balance, and my life was screaming for relief. (lol) Have you ever been there?

 

Even though I initially failed to see the symptoms in my life, losing your P.O.W. is pretty easy to see if you are paying attention to your body, spirit, mind and your relationships. So, what should you look for when you are feeling “out of sorts”?

 

Look for the loss of 3 things.

1) Loss of Perspective – What do you see?
2) Loss of Optimism – How do you see it?
3) Loss of Wisdom – What do you know?

 

Here’s a brief video that talks about losing my P.O.W. and I hope it encourages you to reflect on your life.

 

If you are starting to downgrade your dreams, feel bombarded by negativity or feel as if you can’t trust your intuition, maybe it’s time for you to pause, pay attention and re-prioritize your life.

 

If you need help getting your P.O.W. back, please register for the Dare To Be Me Masterclass. This will be last DTBM Masterclass for 2018. Now is the perfect time to plan for a prosperous and powerful 2019.  Click here for additional information.

 

And, if you are not busy, join me and Stacy Bryant on Saturday. I have posted information below.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Should We Be Friends?

Birds of a feather flock together.

 

Have you ever heard that adage? I am sure that your parents, teachers or elders said that phrase to you tons of times. Am I right?

 

I know that when I was growing up I heard that saying almost every week. My parents always cautioned me about spending time with the “right” people. And, my father’s congregation always scared me to death with all types of horror stories about the potential for doom and gloom if I spent time with people who were from “around the way”, which was a code phrase for people who had bad attitudes and low altitudes.  I was even promised hell and damnation if I spoke with people from the “bottom”, another code word for people to avoid. I heard it all. (I talk more about this in my book, I Have Learned A Few Things)

 

But as a know-it-all kid, I did not always heed their advice. But the older I get,  the more I understand that who we spend time with directly shapes our lives. I learned that those closest to us have the greatest impact on our development, success,  happiness and the fulfillment of our divine assignments. Even if we don’t acknowledge it, our inner circle influences us….for better or worse.

 

FACT: We are the SEEDS and our friends are our SOIL!

 

Why does our inner circle matter so much? Because being around people who challenge us brings OUT the best in us.  Let’s face it. Something magical happens when we spend time with people who stimulate us, strengthen us and support us.  Being stretched, mentored and equipped to do more, say more and to be more positions us to SOAR!!!

 

Oh…but this year I have witnessed and personally experienced the detrimental effects of being in the wrong circles. I have been in and seen circles that have choked creativity, crippled initiative and chipped away at the self-esteem of very confident people. I have witnessed circles that castigated dissenters, criticized innovation, and censured messages. I have seen “friends” reveal each other’s secrets, plagiarize each other’s work and gossip about each other’s flaws. Boundaries were crossed, assumptions were made and connections were fractured. This year I have seen more than I wanted to see, and I have experienced more than I wanted to experience. Yikes!

 

But as summer comes to a close, it is important that we ALL evaluate who is in our circle because, for some of us, changes need to be made if we expect to SOAR. We can NOT give false friends and true enemies access to our hearts, minds, and souls. We can NOT thrive amid drama, sabotage, and toxicity.

 

If we want to have different experiences, we MUST face some truths and make some hard decisions. And even though it may not be easy, we have to marginalize relationships that only offer drama, disrespect, and depletion so that we can maximize relationships that offer the “soil” we need to bloom.

 

Here are some questions to help you evaluate your relationships:

 

Does this relationship align with my purpose?

Does this relationship offer me help, hope or healing?

Does this relationship allow me to bring all of me to the relationship experience?

Does this relationship consume too much of my attention and distract me from my goals?

Does this relationship provide a safe place where I can share, grow and experience different parts of my humanity?

Does this relationship require me to downsize my gifts and downplay my successes?

Does this relationship provide flexibility and freedom?

Does the relationship create angst because the person is not spiritually mature or emotionally equipped to deal with life in a way that edifies us both?

Does the relationship provide an opportunity to enhance my communication skills and my conflict management skills?

Does the relationship provide peace, loyalty, and loving admonishment?

Does the relationship “feel” good and “feel” right based on where I am heading and who I am becoming?

 

To prepare for a more productive fall, evaluate your current relationships. Answer some questions. Then, determine if the relationship needs to end, be renegotiated, be marginalized or be enhanced.

 

Remember, you are the SEED and your circle is the SOIL. You can not bloom in barren, dry places devoid of nutrients. You need rich soil that’s cultivated and cared for.

 

You have the power and the responsibility to choose your circle. So, choose wisely!

 

Let’s Dare to Soar Higher as we choose friends that are fruitful, and not fatal.

 

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Blessings!!

 

SharRon

 

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