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BE YOU!!!

There will always be someone who will attempt to control, cage and change you.

 

They will try to manipulate you and when that doesn’t work, they will malign you.

 

They will criticize you and when that doesn’t work they will castigate you.

 

They will ridicule you and when that doesn’t work they will reject you.

 

They will lie on you and when that doesn’t work they will label you.

 

They will blackmail you and when that doesn’t work they will try to blackball you.

 

They will slander you and when that doesn’t work they will sabotage you.

 

They will condemn you and when that doesn’t work they will attempt to politically cripple you.

 

They will you hinder and when that doesn’t work they will try to hurt you.

 

They will intimidate you and when that doesn’t work they will try to incarcerate you.

 

They will derail you and when that doesn’t work, they will attempt to destroy you.

 

They will threaten you and when that doesn’t work, they will terrorize you.

 

When their damnable, serpentine measures don’t work, they WILL get dirtier, more salacious and just more low-down.

 

But, DO NOT be scared or concerned!  Don’t Panic! Their tactics will fail.

 

I have learned that when you are in the will of GOD, “no weapon formed against you will prosper”.

 

God created you to be who you ARE!!! Nobody else gets a vote.

 

Don’t let their fingerprints corrupt your divine blueprint!

 

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher!

 

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Get YOUR P.O.W. Back!

 

If you are like most, you are probably stunned that we are in October. I don’t know if it is age or something else, but time is moving faster and faster as the years go by, right?

 

Over the last couple of weeks,  I have been doing some pruning. Why? Because my life got too busy.  And so, I took some time to downsize some relationships, refocus my energy and reprioritize some activities so I could concentrate on being more productive, and more FULFILLED!

 

Yes, I had to take a step back because I lost my P.O.W.!

 

You know…..your P.O.W. – that feeling of enthusiasm, zest, bliss and alignment that makes you excited about getting up in the morning? That feeling that makes you feel as if you are in your flow, gaining momentum and pursuing your purpose. That feeling that makes you feel seen in a way that honors your very soul. I am not sure what other people call that feeling….I call it my P.O.W.—short for my power.

 

Have you ever lost your P.O.W.?

 

I didn’t realize that I was losing my P.O.W. at first, because the loss was gradual. Months of fatigue, frustration, and overwhelm slowly sapped and siphoned my energy away from my goals. I lost my joy and my mojo. And, I was left feeling physically, spiritually and emotionally exhausted.

 

At first, I tried to rationalize my feelings of lethargy, but the evidence was clear……..  I was doing too much of the right thing, and I was doing way too much of the wrong thing. I was out of balance, and my life was screaming for relief. (lol) Have you ever been there?

 

Even though I initially failed to see the symptoms in my life, losing your P.O.W. is pretty easy to see if you are paying attention to your body, spirit, mind and your relationships. So, what should you look for when you are feeling “out of sorts”?

 

Look for the loss of 3 things.

1) Loss of Perspective – What do you see?
2) Loss of Optimism – How do you see it?
3) Loss of Wisdom – What do you know?

 

Here’s a brief video that talks about losing my P.O.W. and I hope it encourages you to reflect on your life.

 

If you are starting to downgrade your dreams, feel bombarded by negativity or feel as if you can’t trust your intuition, maybe it’s time for you to pause, pay attention and re-prioritize your life.

 

If you need help getting your P.O.W. back, please register for the Dare To Be Me Masterclass. This will be last DTBM Masterclass for 2018. Now is the perfect time to plan for a prosperous and powerful 2019.  Click here for additional information.

 

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Should We Be Friends?

Birds of a feather flock together.

 

Have you ever heard that adage? I am sure that your parents, teachers or elders said that phrase to you tons of times. Am I right?

 

I know that when I was growing up I heard that saying almost every week. My parents always cautioned me about spending time with the “right” people. And, my father’s congregation always scared me to death with all types of horror stories about the potential for doom and gloom if I spent time with people who were from “around the way”, which was a code phrase for people who had bad attitudes and low altitudes.  I was even promised hell and damnation if I spoke with people from the “bottom”, another code word for people to avoid. I heard it all. (I talk more about this in my book, I Have Learned A Few Things)

 

But as a know-it-all kid, I did not always heed their advice. But the older I get,  the more I understand that who we spend time with directly shapes our lives. I learned that those closest to us have the greatest impact on our development, success,  happiness and the fulfillment of our divine assignments. Even if we don’t acknowledge it, our inner circle influences us….for better or worse.

 

FACT: We are the SEEDS and our friends are our SOIL!

 

Why does our inner circle matter so much? Because being around people who challenge us brings OUT the best in us.  Let’s face it. Something magical happens when we spend time with people who stimulate us, strengthen us and support us.  Being stretched, mentored and equipped to do more, say more and to be more positions us to SOAR!!!

 

Oh…but this year I have witnessed and personally experienced the detrimental effects of being in the wrong circles. I have been in and seen circles that have choked creativity, crippled initiative and chipped away at the self-esteem of very confident people. I have witnessed circles that castigated dissenters, criticized innovation, and censured messages. I have seen “friends” reveal each other’s secrets, plagiarize each other’s work and gossip about each other’s flaws. Boundaries were crossed, assumptions were made and connections were fractured. This year I have seen more than I wanted to see, and I have experienced more than I wanted to experience. Yikes!

 

But as summer comes to a close, it is important that we ALL evaluate who is in our circle because, for some of us, changes need to be made if we expect to SOAR. We can NOT give false friends and true enemies access to our hearts, minds, and souls. We can NOT thrive amid drama, sabotage, and toxicity.

 

If we want to have different experiences, we MUST face some truths and make some hard decisions. And even though it may not be easy, we have to marginalize relationships that only offer drama, disrespect, and depletion so that we can maximize relationships that offer the “soil” we need to bloom.

 

Here are some questions to help you evaluate your relationships:

 

Does this relationship align with my purpose?

Does this relationship offer me help, hope or healing?

Does this relationship allow me to bring all of me to the relationship experience?

Does this relationship consume too much of my attention and distract me from my goals?

Does this relationship provide a safe place where I can share, grow and experience different parts of my humanity?

Does this relationship require me to downsize my gifts and downplay my successes?

Does this relationship provide flexibility and freedom?

Does the relationship create angst because the person is not spiritually mature or emotionally equipped to deal with life in a way that edifies us both?

Does the relationship provide an opportunity to enhance my communication skills and my conflict management skills?

Does the relationship provide peace, loyalty, and loving admonishment?

Does the relationship “feel” good and “feel” right based on where I am heading and who I am becoming?

 

To prepare for a more productive fall, evaluate your current relationships. Answer some questions. Then, determine if the relationship needs to end, be renegotiated, be marginalized or be enhanced.

 

Remember, you are the SEED and your circle is the SOIL. You can not bloom in barren, dry places devoid of nutrients. You need rich soil that’s cultivated and cared for.

 

You have the power and the responsibility to choose your circle. So, choose wisely!

 

Let’s Dare to Soar Higher as we choose friends that are fruitful, and not fatal.

 

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Blessings!!

 

SharRon

 

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Should You Be Doing That?

Are you overwhelmed, overextended, overscheduled, and “over” everything?

 

If you are like most people, your calendar is stuffed with commitments, lists, and appointments.  You have meetings here and dinner plans over there. There is never a free or dull moment, right?

 

I don’t know about you but sometimes it feels as if people have elevated being busy to a status symbol. If you are really busy, so busy that you are don’t have time to really live, you are deemed important. But if you value leisure or self-care, you are judged as being slothful or self-indulgent.

 

I am not sure how busyness became so valued, but somehow rushing and racing from place to place became celebrated.  In fact, if you are not squeezing something into every minute of the day, people are quick to label you as lazy, boring and not ambitious.  Yes, people judge. How did we get here?

 

 There are many reasons why our culture has assigned such a high value to being busy. There are tons of research and data that explain why society has evolved, if evolved is really the right word, to this busyness mindset.

 

But here is the BIG question: are you happy?

 

I have learned that happiness and fulfillment come from doing what really matters most. Both come from living our purpose in a way that gives our lives meaning. And both are a result of a healthy balance of work and rest.

 

So today, look at your calendar and ask yourself these questions:

  • Does your schedule provide evidence of what’s important to you?
  • Do your obligations align with your purpose and your dreams?
  • Do your activities move your closer to your goals and dreams?
  • Does your bank statement confirm your priorities?
  • Does your schedule include what’s essential or is it mired in the trivial?
  • Do your commitments and countless obligations align with your purpose?
  • Do you allocate time for rest and restoration?
  • Do you allocate time to do nothing?

If your life does not reflect what’s important to you and does not allow time for rest and restoration, what changes can you make?

 

Remember, you don’t earn badges, rewards or promotions for being busy. The only thing you experience from being excessively busy is mental, emotional and physical burnout.

 

If you are interested in restructuring your life and re-evaluating your relationships, please join me on August 30th for the “4 Levels of Relationships” Class.  You can join me from the comfort of your own home.  Let’s face it. Maybe you are busy because you are spending time with the wrong people? Click here to register.

Why not slow down and spend time with powerful people who can help you prioritize your life so that you are less busy but more productive, happier, healthier and more fulfilled in your life?

 

Let’s dare to soar higher as we slow down and live life more fully.

 

Celebrating you and your success,

SharRon

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Live Below The Applause and Above The Attacks

You can’t rely on the opinions, assessments,  and perspectives of others.  

 

Why?

 

People are fickle.

 

Sometimes they love you; sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they appreciate you; sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they will support you; sometimes they don’t.

 

Sometimes they hate you; sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they lie on you; sometimes they don’t. Sometimes they degrade you; sometimes they don’t.

 

At the end of the day, we can’t let the thoughts, feelings, and actions of others derail us, disrupt us or depress us. We must know who we are and be at peace about who we are not. Why? We are not as bad as people say we are, and we are not as good as people say are. (fyi..you are pretty amazing)

 

Remember, people are judging you based on how they see themselves, not how they see YOU! Their views are not entirely about you! In fact, when people change how they see themselves, they will often change how they see you too.

 

Just to be clear……I am not saying ignore all rebukes and accolades; that is not wise. It is important to hear when you have done a great job and when you need to improve your performance. If you value people who share information with you and you value what they have to say, listen. Some of their comments may be valid and valuable and will help you SOAR in new ways. However, use their feedback and suggestions as a GUIDE to support your growth and as a GAUGE for your improvement.

 

BUT never let another person’s opinion entirely GOVERN how you love, treat, honor or celebrate yourself! NEVER!!! Stay balanced when you receive applause and also when you receive attacks.

 

Remember…..even though you are GREAT, you are not as good as people say you are. And, if you are not great, you are not as bad as some people say you are.  So, stay humble and hear the comments without heeding the comments in a way that inflates your ego or erodes your confidence.

 

My grandmother would say it like this. Don’t get the big head and don’t let people poke holes in you either. How is that for wisdom?

 

Let’s Dare to Soar Higher (excerpt from the upcoming, Deciding to Soar 2).  Visit www.decidingtosoar.com to learn more.

 

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Defy Labels! It is UP to YOU!


I don’t like labels. There is something about being assigned, but really narrowed, to anything that feels extremely suffocating and restricting to me.  Because let’s face it. None of us really fit into labels; we are greater, broader and deeper than any single group, designation or community. We all are too intricate, too complex and sometimes too contradictory to be defined or confined. Labels just don’t work; they are inadequate at best and destructive at worst. Labels are LIMITING!

 

The main reason I despise labels is that labels don’t honor people.  Why? Because no single label can describe all of who you are or all that you aspire to be. No single label can celebrate all of your talents, gifs, and blessings that God has bestowed on you. No one label can comprehensively identify or explain you; you are too majestic for that. You are too unique, too special, too amazing, too awesome to be reduced or fully understood by myopic minds who need categories and compartments to help them understand you.  Let’s be honest. Labels make people emotionally, intellectually and spiritually lazy, and labels encourage people NOT to do the work (research) required to challenge their minds and perceptions. Something to consider right?

 

Label-Jars-buttonpicI have to admit that it took me almost 30 years to appreciate that labels could not contain me, and it took almost 40 years to know in my heart that any label given to me by human beings was beneath the label that God gave me.  I had to learn and accept that I was divinely made, and I had to understand that anything that was divinely made could not be fully comprehended and appreciated by mere mortals.

 

Yes, it took a few years and a few therapy sessions to understand that people could never fully grasp all of me and guess what, people cannot grasp all of you. People don’t have the ability to fully understand you and very few have the desire to really know you.  It is the truth……the truth is tight but it’s right!

 

So here is some more truth: you are amazing and a label, any label, can never capture your “amazingness”.  The human language can never completely articulate, elucidate, summarize or capture your divine essence. Don’t forget that!

 

It is true that when you hear some of the labels that people project on to you, your feelings may get hurt; some labels sting us personally and professionally. Trust me, my feelings have been hurt many times. But then a little voice in my soul reminds me that people don’t have the capacity to understand, comprehend, celebrate or affirm all of who I am. How could they? They don’t know me; they didn’t create me; God did!

 

Here is the final truth: it is YOUR responsibility to identify and define who you are and who you are not. Even if someone or a system labels you, it is YOUR responsibility to remember that their labels do not determine YOUR reality or worth, only you do.  It is also YOUR responsibility to never allow a label to demote you, demean you, deny you or dismantle you – NEVER!

 

Never forget that only you and God know who you truly are, and if you have not done your own emotional work, you may not truly know all of who you are either.  But God knows you. And only God (Source) who is the Great Architect knows you better than you know yourself. So defy labels so you can Dare to Soar Higher!

 

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Here is a short video about how our “stories” influence how we label ourselves and others.

 

Blessings!

SharRon

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YOU ARE WHERE YOU NEED TO BE!!

So often we give up because we feel like we are behind. We somehow believe that we should throw in the towel because we feel as if we are lagging, lacking and less than.

 

But who says that sometimes being in the back is bad? Who says that the being in the middle is always mediocre? Who says that being in the system is not sometimes strategic? Who says that being in the pack is not sometimes purposeful?

 

I have learned that sometimes behind in the back and in the middle helps you SEE better. It allows you to see what NOT to do, understand where NOT to go and identify who NOT to trust. Sometimes not being first allows you to capitalize on and/or avoid the misery, mistakes, and miscalculations of others.

 

I have learned that when I am doing my best …WHEREVER I am …..I am where I need to be to learn, leverage and listen to what and who is around me. Why? Because every space is a sacred place – a place for me to observe, expand and practice what I need to improve as I navigate my way in life.

 

So, if feel as if you are behind, you are not. Stay focused and don’t quit. Keep moving. Set your own pace. Be consistent. Be intentional. Be prayerful. Stay activated. Stay open. Stay expected. Stay ready.

 

You are not behind. You are in the right place…. The right position…..The right posture…. to receive the blessings that the Universe has in store for you.

 

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher as we maintain momentum toward our goals and our vision. ( excerpt from Deciding to Soar, Vol 3).

 

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Are You Living Your Purpose?

purpose2Are you living your life with purpose and on purpose?  Hard question, right? But it is a critical question because people who don’t live their purpose may enjoy financial success, but many times they don’t feel totally fulfilled.  They don’t feel happy, energized or productive. I have even heard people say that when they were not living their purpose they felt out of alignment – which is another way of saying that they did NOT feel that their mind, body and spirit were in sync.

 

For many years, I lived out of sync. I was not being true to myself and I was not honoring my calling, my divine WHY (my PURPOSE). And so, I felt scattered, scared and stuck. Even though I was advancing in my career, I always felt as if I was squandering my talent and living below my true potential.  Most of all, I didn’t feel congruent; I was not doing what I knew God had ordained or “wired” me to do. I was living outside of my PURPOSE.

 

findyourpurposeTrust me, it was not a good feeling.  I constantly felt emotionally and spiritually weary trying to fit into society’s definition of what it meant to be a successful woman. In my heart, I knew that society’s definition was limiting and confining me; actually, I felt extremely trapped. I knew that I was destined for more, but I didn’t know what the MORE was.  Even though my life provided tons of clues about what I should be doing to make a difference in the world, I initially didn’t see my PURPOSE as valid, valuable or viable. Have you ever felt that way?

 

Thankfully, I learned a few things.  And after I understood and accepted my PURPOSE, I felt compelled to help others find their PURPOSE too. I knew that people wanted, but really needed, to feel courageous, connected and charged to live abundant lives.  I knew people desired lives FULL of energy, engagement, and enthusiasm.  I knew that people, happy people, really wanted to contribute to society in a meaningful way. I knew that people needed to know that their lives mattered – that they had a PURPOSE.

 

If you feel stuck, scattered or scared, and know that there is MORE for you to do and be, I want to personally invite you to the Purpose Retreat in Jacksonville, Florida.

 

At the Purpose Retreat, you will meet other powerful women, women just like you, and learn about their journeys.  Believe me, we all have some lessons to share and some of our lessons were pretty painful and extremely costly. But the main lessons we learned was that living without Purpose, operating outside of Passion and relinquishing Power prevents people from living the lives that they DESERVE!

 

Yes, DESERVE! You DESERVE a life of abundance – but you have to go after it. Abundance won’t show up at your front door; it takes effort! And, YOU are worthy of your best effort.

 

Invest in yourself!

 

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“I Have Always Done It That Way”

“I have always done it this way”. Haven’t we all said that?

 

I know I have. I have made that statement hundreds of times.  In many ways and for many years, it was my default response.

 

“I have always done it this way” was my “go to” reply when I was asked to do something differently or when I was asked to do something that I didn’t really want to do. In fact, it was my favorite retort when people asked me to consider new ideas, modify my behavior or questioned my views. “I have always done it this way” was my way of dodging conversations, avoiding conflict or escaping any responsibility to think critically about how I was living and navigating in the world.

 

Trust me, it was an effective way to end any conversation and I used the statement indiscriminately, and yes, aggressively when I had no desire to change, think or engage. “I have always done it this way” was my tried-and-true strategy to be left alone. And I thought that my commitment to that 6-word phrase and that 6-word mentality served me well, at least that is what I believed.

 

But life has a wonderful way of showing us that our failure or inability to remain open to new ideas, different cultures, emerging paradigms, innovative solutions will limit us.  Yes, life has a way of teaching us that nothing good comes from a closed mind, a closed heart or a closed hand. Nothing!!

 

In fact, anything closed off, closed out, closed up or closed in eventually withers and dies. Just think about it. Careers, businesses, friendships, religions, relationships, plants, pets or anything important to us dies without a consistent inflow of fresh air, a steady influx of new energy, an occasional introduction of new ways of thinking or the thoughtful implementation of new behaviors. Everything, and I mean everything, needs a constant supply of physical, spiritual and emotional oxygen to survive. Everything needs to be nurtured and challenged or it loses its vitality, vibrancy and its value.

 

Yes, I have learned that anything denied nourishment, engagement, growth or expression eventually dies. Let’s face it – our health deteriorates when it is neglected, careers die when they are not managed, communities crumble with they are abandoned, dreams are unrealized with they are not constantly pursued, and love dies when it is not cultivated.  Death is inevitable because desertion and demise go hand in hand. Resistance and regression are companions. Stifling and stopping are connected. Avoidance and apathy are attached. And, ignorance and inertia are always somehow linked, aren’t they? The truth is, having a closed mind, closed heart and a closed hand is a lethal combination; it is a recipe for disaster, destruction, disappointment, detachment, and despair.

 

Here a few questions to consider:

How do we stay open?

How do we remember that we don’t know it all?

How do we stay connected to each other in the midst of our busy lives and competing demands?

How do we stay receptive to new ideas and to the moving of the spirit?

How do we consider different cultures, expose ourselves to diverse communities and listen to a variety of perspectives?

How do we offer our services and support for the benefit of humanity?

How do we abandon our arrogance and admit our ignorance long enough so that we can listen, laugh, learn and love?

 

I have learned that “I have always done it this way” is a trap that leaves little room for evolution, transformation, self-analysis, and healing. Just my thoughts of course.’

 

I would love to hear from you. How do you remain open so you don’t miss out on life, love, learning, and living? Something to pause, ponder and pray about, right?

 

I look forward to hearing from you. Leave a comment below and please share.

 

AND, please enjoy the next installment on SOARING series.

SharRon

 

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You are ALREADY Courageous!

I am always surprised when people tell me that they are NOT courageous. When I am blessed to hear some of the events and experiences of their lives, it is obvious that they are courageous. And, they are not just mildly courageous, they are extremely courageous. They are bold, brave and gutsy. They are taking steps, making moves and making decisions in the face of loss, fear, rejection, and danger…. that’s COURAGEOUS!

 

So, why do people underestimate how courageous they are but see examples of courage in others?

 

I wish I knew the answer to that question. Because if more people understood and accepted how courageous they really were they would change how they navigate in the world. They would celebrate themselves and appreciate that taking small actions and making consistent moves every day is courageous. They would understand that expressing and even having a dissenting view is courageous. They would accept that being who they are in a world that penalizes or marginalizes difference is courageous. They would realize that being a parent, a partner, and a professional is courageous. They would understand that rebounding from deep despair, depression, and devastation only to emerge stronger and wiser is courageous. Even talking to people who they were taught to degrade, hate and avoid, is courageous.

 

Here’s the bottom line. You are courageous. You may not feel as if you are courageous as you need to be or want to be, but the seeds of courage are inside of you. The seeds may need to be activated or nurtured to grow BUT they are there inside of your soul.

 

Since you are already courageous, what can you do to be MORE courageous?

 

  • Get to know yourself better. The more you understand who you are, what you need, what you value and what you desire (clarity) the easier it is to walk in courage.
  • Get comfortable dancing with fear. Why? Fear is not going away. When you are stretching yourself to do something that you have never done before, you may feel twinges of fear. Get use to it. Dance with the fear – I like to call fear activation butterflies – and SOAR!
  • Accept that walking courageously may result in a loss. Let’s face it. When you are being honest, and when you behave in alignment with your own heart and values, somebody will get upset. But so, what! Don’t stay in a “prison of their expectations” and forfeit your right to life, love, and liberty.

 

Today, accept that you are courageous! Feel it in your heart. Reflect on all of the things that you do daily that take courage. Remind yourself of all of your “FIRSTS” that required you to step outside of your comfort zone. List your big wins and identify what made you win. And finally, commit to finding new ways to win in your life every day.

 

You are courageous! You can do what you want to do and what you need to do!

 

I believe in you!

 

I am willing to walk this journey with you. Just click here and let’s talk.

 

Let’s Dare to Soar Higher!

 

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Your Life Strategist, SharRon

 

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