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My interview on Motivate U with June Archer

I am so grateful to June Archer for giving me an opportunity to share my message. Thank you!

To learn more about this amazing man, author, speaker, business owner and father, follow him at www.iamjunearcher.com or Click Here.

You don’t want to miss his other inspirational podcasts….https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/motivate-u!-with-june-archer

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You Can’t Heal and Hide!

2 heartsI have learned that you can’t hide and heal at the same time. I had to learn that lesson the hard way, because for years, I tried to hide my depression. I tried to conceal my unhappiness by being excessively cheerful. I tried to hide my despair by being overly optimistic. I tried to hide my lack of sleep by ingesting large doses of caffeine. I tried to hide my untidy home by refusing visitors. I tried to camouflage my fluctuating weight with loose-fitting clothes. I tried to hide my insecurity by habitually overcommitting and overpromising. Most of my daily existence centered around me hiding parts of me, the parts that society convinced me were weak, embarrassing, and demonic. So every day, I attempted to hide the broken pieces of my spirit and cover up the open wounds of my soul. However, every day my depression demanded to be seen and felt. Despite my prayers and pleas, my depression would not go away.

I did everything in my power to keep my secret, and I went to great lengths to disguise any signs and symptoms of my extreme sadness. I did everything I knew to do to hide in plain sight. Eventually, hiding became my norm, and I lost the ability to identify who I really was and what I really felt. I got cocky and somehow convinced myself that my depression was concealed from the rest of the world. Sadly, I actually started to believe that I was okay, that I was well, and that I was functioning. I even convinced myself that my feelings of despair and lethargy were normal. I existed in a sea of denial.

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I was in denial, but my inner circle wasn’t fooled at all. They didn’t know it was called depression, but they speculated that something was awry. Something was off-kilter or different about me even though they could not define it or diagnose it. They knew I was not as cheerful or joyful as I appeared to be. Even though I went to great lengths to camouflage my symptoms and disguise my despair, my inner circle sensed that something wasn’t adding up. My actions and attitude were not aligned.

Eventually, the pain became so great that I had to admit that “something” was wrong. I didn’t have a word for what I experienced, and I could not imagine that the emotional pain and sluggishness that robbed me of any modicum of normalcy were common. I finally realized and accepted that I needed help but that, most of all, I needed hope. But I could get neither by hiding from myself and hiding from people who loved me. I had to “come out” and admit and acknowledge that my life and my very orchestrated and protected persona were a scam. If I wanted healing, I could no longer hide; I had to “get known” and be seen.

women_s_liberation_statueOne of the most healing days in my life is when I came out of hiding. When I stepped out and stepped forward to admit that I needed help, I was freed. When I announced to myself and a few trusted friends that I needed support, I felt relieved and empowered. I felt courageous, and my admission opened the door to my recovery, and I thankfully was able to reclaim my life.

I know it is not easy but if you are hurting, please  come out of hiding.  Even if you have to do it slowly, come. Come out and speak! Speak up, speak out, and speak often. Be seen! Own your stuff! Your own voice may be the voice that brings you and others help, hope, and healing.

No, you can’t hide and heal. But you can reveal and heal. You can, trust me you can! I believe in you.

Blessings and Dare To Soar Higher!  SharRonsharron-back cover

 

 

 

Emotional Healing Interview – Channel 57

 

Adapted from a chapter in ” I Have Learned A Few Things”

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My Mother Taught Me…..

2 heartsAround Mother’s Day, I always pause to reflect on what I have learned from my mother. As I quiet my mind, I try to review what I was taught, directly and indirectly, about sisterhood, womanhood, femininity and me. I try to identify messages that made me, motivated me, molded me and mobilized me. I also attempt, without blaming, to detect messages that messed me UP and systemically dismantled my self-esteem and eroded my self-confidence. I also try to recognize what messages restored me, rejuvenated me and reconnected me to my own spirit and helped me rediscover the depths of my soul.

I reflect patiently, critically and sometimes tearfully. For some reason around Mother’s Day, I have a greater desire to understand messages that were given to me by my mother.  I want to understand what beliefs she passed on to me and why. I also want to know what shaped her beliefs and where her beliefs originated. The lineage and history of her passed-down lessons are important because the source of the shared life lessons provide greater insight into who she is.

I can admit it. Even though I am a half-century young, I still want to know more about my momma.  I crave to know more about her spiritually, emotionally and energetically because I am convinced that the more I know about her will consequently help me learn additional information about me.

Every year I keep exploring even though I understand that I may not know and never know how my life intersects with my mother and my grandmother.  I realize that all the ways that we are similar may never be exposed, but I know my genes know. The experiences and information about my mother and my ancestors are somehow encoded in my DNA, and I have already unknowingly passed those lessons on to my son, Tariq.

It takes effort to conduct this annual analysis; I am usually crying, journaling, talking and laughing all at the same. It is something about reminiscing about my upbringing that evokes so many emotions, sometimes conflicting emotions, for me and in me. However, I stay focused and committed to the process because it’s important for me to understand a few things. For example:

  • How are the beliefs that were inculcated in my youth and reinforced in my rearing still relevant for me today?
  • Is what I learned about women still pertinent today?
  • Is what I observed about the definition and demonstration of femininity still important?
  • Is what I learned about sisterhood still valuable or viable?
  • What beliefs do I have about women that need to be discarded and deleted from my mind?
  • What beliefs need to be examined so that they can be reframed in my consciousness?
  • What beliefs are helpful and need to restored so that they can better sustain me as I age?
  • What….?

Spiritual JourneyI always love to take journeys and so I invite you this Mother’s Day to take a stroll down your own Mother memory lane. Let’s walk together thoughtfully with open hearts, open minds and open spirits to discover some truths. Let’s walk slowly enough so we don’t overlook any lessons that will be revealed, explained or negated. Let’s walk with a purpose to better understand how your mother’s presence shaped you or how her absence scarred you. Let’s walk together. I have provided questions to help us as we walk.

As you are embarking on your own Mother Reflection journey, remember that it may be a happy journey or one filled with tears.  It may be a discovery journey or a gratitude journey or a confusing journey or a forgiveness journey; all of them are critical to your emotional cleansing and spiritual awareness.

No matter how your journey turns out, trust me, the emotional stroll will be life-altering. Every step you courageously take will bring you closer to who you are and what you need to be at peace with your mother, maybe not forever, but just for today, Mother’s Day.

To all the women who bravely and generously shared and continue to share themselves with others, who gave kisses and hugs, who gave discipline and guidance, who instilled confidence and motivation in the lives of others……Happy Mother’s Day!

love-and-relationshipsTo my own Mom:  Mommy, I am thinking about you and I am thinking about us. I love you.

Your daughter,    SharRon (Ron-Ron, Sharry, Ron-O, #2 and all of the other nicknames that I can’t remember or chose to forget)

 

****Excerpt from the Mother Reflection Book. To receive the Mother’s Day Reflection book,Click Here

Hope to see you Saturday, May 14th.

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Go Back To What Made You Strong

Healthy_Heart_Strong_Muscles_I believe it is at the weakest times of our lives that it is important to remember what made US strong. So many times we get overwhelmed, we feel depressed, we feel depleted or we feel defeated. We stop building ourselves, nourishing ourselves, growing ourselves and loving ourselves. We forget what made us strong!

And when we don’t remember what fortified us and sustained us, we start to sink. We begin to play small, we become stagnant and we settle for less than what we deserve. We succumb to mediocrity, sickness, toxic relationships and we neglect self-care.

It is time to remember what helped US and encouraged US to BE strong.

three3 things keep me strong: a healthy body, a clear mind and a pure heart. No, I don’t have all 3 of them right now but I am working on it. I am doing my best and I am pressing forward and onward. I don’t let failure intimidate or immobilize me. I keep getting up every time I fall down or worse, after I sabotage my own efforts. But I don’t and won’t give up. I keep trying even if my “try” looks different day by day.

If you want to change or elevate your life, what do you do? You GO BACK TO WHAT MADE YOU STRONG!

How do you do that? First, reflect on your life and ask yourself a few questions.  For example: When did you feel empowered, engaged, excited, enlighten and elevated? When did you feel encouraged, motivated, inspired and ready to take on challenges? When did you feel fearless, faithful and fulfilled? When did your feel satisfied, successful, smart and sexy? When?

After you identify when, reflect on what you were doing? Were you meditating, writing, going to school, building a business, strengthening your body, expanding your mind? Maybe you were letting your NO be a NO and your Yes be a Yes?  Maybe you were not trying to be a people pleaser which allowed you to focus on yourself? Maybe you were not biting off my than you could chew or do?  Maybe you were cultivating healthy relationships that fed your mind, body and soul? What were you doing?

Identify what made you strong and don’t just return to those activities, enhance those activities. Do them better and bigger!  Make the activities that strengthen you a priority in your life. Be consistent so that you don’t lose momentum again or lose yourself again. Stay focused on you because You deserve and need your strength to do what you have been destined to do. YOU have a purpose to fulfill and a divine assignment to complete!

There is so much more for you to do in the world. The world needs your unique gift!! So, let’s get ready to be our best Selves. We can do it together!

If you are  interested in learning how I can support you to “go back”, please schedule a FREE discovery session. I can’t wait to meet you.

Blessings and Dare To Soar Higher!

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If you are free on May 14, join us!

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Growth Is A Choice

Growth2Growth is a CHOICE! Choose to expand your mind and God will enlarge your territory.

Everybody wants to grow or at least that is what most people claim. But do you really want to grow? Do you really want to broaden your horizons? Do you really want to stretch your mind in new directions, open your mind to new possibilities, avail your mind to new revelations and do things that you have never done before? Are you willing to get out of your comfort zone to explore the unfamiliar, the uncharted, the unpredictable and the unacknowledged?

I truly believe that when our minds grow we give God more space to pour in blessings and to deposit additional wisdom; I believe we literally give God more to work with. When we choose to grow, we welcome change and we welcome the opportunity to be changed.  We welcome being pushed, pulled, pressed and primed for the impossible, the uncomfortable, the unconventional and sometimes, the unacceptable.

When growth3jpgwe are really ready to grow, we risk relationships, rationale, ridicule and reputations to challenge assumptions and  defy limitations. Yes, we know some people will call us crazy. But despite what others say, we chose to nurture, cultivate and develop our minds. We make room for abundance, excellence, failure, discomfort, learning and mastery. We move beyond our intellect and develop our intuition and imagination. We soar beyond our education and seek continued exploration. We move beyond our routines and delve into additional research.We GROW!

Let’s face it. Growth is essential because the knowledge that we have today will not prepare us to succeed or even compete for opportunities tomorrow. Honestly, in some fields and in some relationships, the knowledge that we have today is already obsolete. And if the truth be told – in some areas of our lives we are already behind the eight ball. So, if we are not growing, we are losing momentum every day.

Growth4So, If you are committed to growth, shun complacency, mediocrity, normalcy and the status quo.  Avoid the simple, the ordinary, and the easy. Reject any signs and semblance of stagnation, regression and resignation in your life. Surround yourself with excellence, mentors, meaning-makers, truth-tellers and truth-seekers. Invest in yourself, commit to progress and resist the temptation to quit. Strive to thrive. Pursue progress! Accept advancement! Embrace elevation!  Love learning!

What do you need to choose? To have the life that you desire and deserve, choose Growth. Choose to grow up, grow out and grow in so that God can enlarge your intellectual, emotional, spiritual and financial territories. Give God more to work with so that you can live the life of your dreams. ( from the upcoming book The 50 Choices to a Fulfilling Life)

Choose growth today. The choice is yours.

Blessings! SharRon

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I Know You Ain’t Talking To Me Like That!


love-and-relationships“I know you ain’t talking to me like that!”
I don’t know about you but I have thought or said those words many times when people have spoken to me in ways that I felt were unacceptable or inappropriate. When people have spoken to me in condescending tones or in a patronizing manner, I immediately address their rudeness tactfully, or at least I attempt to. There is something about disrespect and disrespectful communication that shake me at my core. Honestly, it makes my blood boil, and I always feel the need to address it immediately and emphatically, yet diplomatically. As a personal commitment to myself, I always speak up.

Dealing with rude people who I don’t know or don’t have a relationship with is difficult enough. But interacting with people who speak to me in degrading, offensive and patronizing ways who also claim to love and respect me is extremely problematic; it is downright painful.  Listening to a person who claims to love me speak to me in a demeaning way makes me feel a whole range of emotions, and none of the emotions are positive.  And even though there are many psychological and communication theories that explain the impact of tough tones and rough words, I am convinced that my son expressed it best when he was just 4 years old. He said, “Mommy, when you yell at me like that it hurts me in my ears and it hurts me in my heart”.

Wow! The comment stopped me in my tracks and made me realize how careless communication damages the spirit and sometimes causes irrevocable damage in a relationship. Like my son so eloquently expressed, hurtful words and hurtful tones linger in the heart and can reverberate in your ears for weeks, sometimes months and sometimes years.  And the sad part is that you can never recall the words or delete the encounter etched in the minds of your loved ones. You can’t un-ring the proverbial bell.

2 heartsSo I want to offer a few tips that may help you when and if your loved one has a temporary and infrequent communication lapse. In other words, when she/he has a melt-down and has a bout of temporary insanity and speaks to you in a disparaging way. And I emphasize two words: temporary and infrequent. If you and your partner have frequent communication lapses (yelling, biting comments, condescending tones, insults, etc.) or consistently communicate with each other in disrespectful ways that is indicative of a larger problem. Consistent disrespect is beyond the scope of this post.

Tip #1: Recognize that people who feel or have been wounded often yell the loudest and the most. People who don’t feel acknowledged, cared for, appreciated and protected, in general or in the moment, often respond in ways that are totally disproportionate to the situation. Their over-the-top responses and comments are not always all about you. Their responses are usually about their own emotional triggers that have been activated by something or someone. And, many times they are usually not emotionally aware that the have been triggered; they don’t know what’s going on until it is too late. They are just responding and reacting without thinking or considering the impact of their words or identifying the origin of their discontent. They are just lashing out and unfortunately causing all types of emotional trauma in relationships. Does that sound like you?

Tip #2: Recognize that people who feel or have felt powerless may respond aggressively to perceived slights. It is a known fact that people tend to be hyper-sensitive and over-react when they feel vulnerable, weak, helpless and hopeless. When some people don’t feel in control of their circumstances or they don’t feel in control of themselves, they may also project their feelings on to you. Instead of looking inward to effectively address their discomfort, they look outward, and oftentimes outward in your direction. If they are emotionally immature or/and under a significant amount of stress, they may also resort to blaming, shifting responsibility, justifying, yelling or other manipulative tactics in efforts to point the finger at you. Why?  Because looking at themselves is too painful or too overwhelming; sometimes it is just emotionally too hard for them to admit their own pain, issues, mistakes and failures. Also, the hard truth is that most people are better at causing pain for others than they are dealing with or feeling their own pain so lashing out is unfortunately their first defense. Of course that does not absolve them of their responsibility to act in a loving way, but it is something to keep in mind.

Tip #3: Recognize that some people don’t know how to access or explain their emotions and feelings and so they act out. Yes, I said it – adults have tantrums, terrible tantrums. Some adults act up and they act out when they are unable to express their thoughts, feelings and perspectives in way that makes them feel heard. I have even known couples to resort to what I call low level communication – name-calling, cursing, sarcasm, and innuendo when they feel incapable of adequately conveying their sentiments.  In fact, when some people are unable to identify their emotions and articulate their feelings they “hit below the belt” and will sometimes say things that feel unforgivable. If or when they are unable to say “I feel frustrated, I feel scared, I feel ashamed, I feel disappointed, I feel angry, I feel lonely” or whatever the emotion is, they are more prone to respond in childish ways that are emotionally destructive and spiritually damaging to the relationship.

Being spoken to in a way that feels disrespectful is never good; it can feel insulting, embarrassing and humiliating. And when you don’t respond in a way that (you perceive)restores your respect or challenges the disrespect, it can make you feel cowardly and ashamed.  But if we are honest, we all can admit that we have had communication lapses. We all, at one time or another, have done some yelling or have been yelled at during our life. And we all have also been the recipient as well as the perpetrator of some offensive and patronizing interactions too.

communicate-better-w-love_detail200So here is the take-away. When your spouse, partner or loved one has a communication lapse, remind yourself that the reaction is not always solely about you. Some of their reactions may be their own internal emotional stuff surfacing.  So don’t always make it about you and don’t always make it your sole responsibility to placate her/him. Remind your partner that you love her, that you are willing to listen, and that you are willing to help as long as it is done with and in love and with and in respect. Trust me, just knowing that you are willing and ready to listen to him is healing and prevents him for feeling that you don’t care. Not being or feeling heard is a something that we all have felt and it does not feel good, right?

Like I said before, infrequent communication lapses are problematic enough and need to be addressed. But consistent, out of control rants should never been tolerated. As long as communication lapses are the exception and not the rule, be encouraged. You can work on yourself to better identify, process and engage your own emotions. And, you can practice communicating with you partner in a direct, yet loving way.

So if you have a communication lapse, quickly admit your mistake, apologize for communicating in a dishonoring way, and commit to do better. Get help, practice new techniques, read some books and go to relationship coaching. Don’t let a temporary lapse cause you to lose a permanent relationship. Get help! You deserve it and your partner does too.  (From the upcoming book ; ” I Have Learned A Few Things About Love”)

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We will discuss more tips at the “Are You Ready For Love” Seminar. Have you registered?   Click here! Are You Ready For Love?    Hope to see you there!

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Are You Brave Enough For Love?

Is heart, not horn, that makes ram goat brave.

— African proverb

Are you brave enough for love? I know you want to be in a relationship, but can you handle being in a loving partnership? Can you handle what love requires, what love demands, what love needs, and what love commands? Are you brave enough for love?

loveI have learned that choosing to love and choosing to commit to someone is absolutely courageous. It is a bold move; it is a gutsy decision. Loving someone is an audacious move, because love is full of dichotomies, and dichotomies create emotional tension. For example, a relationship requires that you have to be strong yet tender. You need to be definitive but cautious. Love requires that you be direct yet diplomatic. Love requires that you are flexible yet consistent. Love requires that you sometimes say yes but sometimes say no. Love requires you to talk often but listen more. Love requires and demands much of us.

I have also learned that love requires that you have personal boundaries but, at the same time, not erect emotional walls. Love requires that you bring some wisdom to the relationship but, at the same time, understand that the wisdom you bring may need to be applied differently. Love requires that you know yourself but demands that you continue to learn who you are. Love demands that, in some ways, you evolve but, in other ways, that you remain the same. Love requires that you grow up but demands that you never give up. Love requires much.

2 heartsI have learned that love can be a constant internal struggle; it can sometimes feel like an emotional battle. Why? Because no matter how you slice it, love is full of contrasts. But the people who are successful at love are the ones who can harmonize, synchronize, and optimize the differences in a way that satisfies the soul. Yes, love requires that you courageously work together so that you can stay together, right? It requires that you are brave; it requires courage.

So which one demonstrates more courage—your spirit (heart) or brute strength (horn)? Your feelings (heart) or your force (horn)? Your truth (heart) or your tales (horns)? Your desires (heart) or your deceit (horn)? Your faith (heart) or your fiction (horn)? Your vulnerability (heart) or your vengeance (horn)? Your acceptance (heart) or your attacks (horns)? Your celebration (heart) of others or your negation (horn) of others? Your love (heart) or your hate (horn)? Your motivation (heart) or your manipulation (horn)? Your empathy (heart) or your enmity (horn)? Your appreciation (heart) or your apathy (horn)? Which one makes you brave?

The African ancestors said it best: “Is heart, not horn, that makes ram goat brave.” Always remember that love is not for wimps. So are you brave enough to love? Only you can decide.

Blessings!

***Printed from “I Have Learned A Few Things” – Chapter 13.

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Are you brave enough for love? Let’s talk about it on April 2.  Register here below. Register for “Are You Ready For Love” Early Bird Registration ends on March 24th.

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Inexperienced But Not Ill-equipped

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When God placed in my spirit to publish an anthology, I didn’t actually know what an anthology was.  I knew that I wanted, but really was divinely directed, to select writers to embark upon a new writing journey with me. I knew that I wanted women to share their personal stories because I understood the emotional and spiritual power of testimonies. And, I knew that I wanted to include women who were different because I believe that since God created diversity that diversity should be celebrated. That’s all I knew.

But even though I knew those basic things, I had no idea how to proceed.  I had questions, many of them, that made me really wonder if I was up to the task. I had questions like: How do I select the authors? How do I manage such a big project? How do I identify the right publisher? How do I finance the project? How do I execute a marketing strategy? How do I juggle all of the balls needed to birth a project while at the same time working a demanding full-time job, supporting my coaching clients, serving in ministry, editing my upcoming book and taking care of me?  How?

But the more questions I had, the more God quieted my concerns because God reminded me that when God gives vision, God gives provision. God also reminded me that God gives guidance, discernment and direction, and all three are increased in the midst of faith. Finally, God reminded me to use what I had and to use what I knew. I was divinely reminded that even though I was inexperienced,  I was NOT ill-equipped.  There’s a difference.

what you knowPrayerfully, I heeded all of those reminders and moved forward. I took a leap, cautiously but deliberately. I had fear but I didn’t fret.  I prayed and I committed to use what I knew. I disciplined by doubt, calmed my spirit and pressed toward the mark. I honored “the call” to compile an anthology.

I know abandoning our dreams is really easy, especially when the magnitude of our dreams is outside of our experiences and expertise.  Just think about it. How many times do we talk ourselves out of our dreams because we don’t assess what we already know? How many times do we throw in the towel without doing an inventory of all of the lessons that we have learned, all of the talents that we have and all of the people that we know. How many times? In my life, there have been too many times when I deserted my dreams altogether or downsized my dreams to fit my current reality. I played too small in the world which left me with years of painful regret.

So without any publishing expertise, I did what I knew. What did I know? First, I was reminded that I had learned tons of stuff in graduate school, in corporate America, in ministry and in life that provided a good business foundation. No, I didn’t know everything, but I had a good idea of my strengths and my weaknesses.  I knew financing, balance sheets and profit margins. I knew operations, marketing and sales. Most importantly, I knew how I liked to work; I knew what supported my creativity, productivity and efficiency. Knowing yourself is always the first key to success!  

teamwork1Secondly, I knew the importance of a great team. I surveyed who I knew, and here’s the most important part, I identified people who had the same commitment to excellence that I had. That was important.  I also wanted the core team to have a similar work rhythm, and their rhythm had to adjust to the music called life. Having a similar work pace and similar work speed were critical because I knew that an anthology included timelines, required coordination and demanded execution. I wanted to make sure we had a dream team to increase the potential for success.

I also knew that I enjoyed and thrived around a certain type of energy, a “can-do spirit”, that was optimistic, action-oriented and solution-oriented.  I knew that I had an affinity for people who solved problems and not just reported problems. And finally, I also knew that everybody on the core team needed to be comfortable with flexibility, change and diversity. It was a tall order but the goal was simple: synergy.  And I knew that synergy would only develop among people who embraced collaboration, communication and had a genuine concern for themselves and others.

Thankfully, the core team appeared! Some people may say that I got lucky but I think I was blessed because the team not only had the key components for success, they had additional talents that were helpful too. Talents like the ability to understand incoherent text messages, decode half-finished sentences, decipher short voicemail messages and create full sentences from half-baked emails. They had the ability to multi-task, ask for help, push boundaries, defy convention and challenge each other with love, “carefrontation”.  They are a talented group who knew how to manage processes, get along with people and stick to plans. Lucky me, right?

dreamsI have learned that going after your dreams is not easy; sometimes it is not even convenient. Yet, going after your dreams is doable and achievable if you believe in your vision, and if you find the right people to believe in your vision too. Thankfully, I found the right people. I found the right people to help me steer the ship, the right people to share their stories, the right people to support the project and the right people to promote the book.  I found amazing directors who pushed me, pressed me and shared their genius with me. I am so incredibly grateful to them. Thank you!

The people that the team could not find, God sent to us.  God orchestrated people, places and things to help us promote the message and communicate the vision of diversity, unity and sisterhood.  Yes, God did it!

I know that the book signing on Sunday will be an event to most, but to some of us, it will be a celebration. A celebration of a dream realized, a celebration of sisterhood, a celebration of healing and a celebration of hope. But when I look over my life and consider all of the challenges I faced in 2015, the book signing will be a celebration of God and God’s grace. It will be a testament of God’s power to keep me when I didn’t think I could be kept, love me when I didn’t feel lovable, encourage me in the midst of deep personal pain and to push me outside of my introverted comfort zone. It will be a celebration…God did it!

TSOMProfile PictureSo what’s the strength of my soul?  The strength of my soul is the belief that God is the essence, the expression and the epitome of grace, love and renewal.  And because of that belief when I hold the book in my hands, I sense God’s divine presence. I feel God’s power, prominence and purpose in this amazing project that honors women from all walks of life.

We could have done some things differently, and we will, in our next edition. But the lessons learned, the wisdom gained and the joy we experienced are blessings, blessings that help us know God, know ourselves and know each other in new ways. We learned a lot, and we are continuing to learn as we market the book, develop seminars, plan a conference and write plays. We are learning about the power of sisterhood, the power of faith and the power of vision.  To quote the title of one of my books, we “have learned a few things”.

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Thank you again for supporting The Strength of My Soul: Stories of Sisterhood, Triumph and Inspiration. I am grateful for your patience, prayers and support as we birthed this incredible project.  I am grateful for every purchase, every connection, every opportunity and for every encouraging word that you have shared with all of us. I hope to see you on Sunday and I can’t wait to hug you and say thank you in person.  I am so grateful!

 

Blessings to you always
SharRon

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Listen To Your Soul

Happy New Year!

Are you ready to soar in 2016? Are you ready to live your best life? I am and I bet you are too.

I am ready to go to a new level in every aspect of my life; I am ready to be better, greater and bolder. I am ready to be MORE of me! Are you?

So, here is the $10K question:  how do you become MORE of yourself?  I am glad that you asked. You listen to your own soul.

listenListening to your soul is not always easy to do especially because we are bombarded by messages, mandates and mantras of who we should be, what we should be, what we should do and what we should want. We are barraged by so many should messages that sometimes it is difficult to discern and hear our own voices over the noise of the crowd (family, friends, society).

But despite all of the external and internal distractions, listening to your soul is doable. How do you listen? The first step is to find a quiet place and ask yourself this question: who am I?

“Who am I” is a simple question, but it is a question that takes time, meditation and intention. Why? Because to really determine and know who you are, you have to mentally peel away all of the layers of your personas, separate yourself from your accomplishments, quiet your insatiable ego, detach from your possessions, divest of your preconceived ideas, abandon all of the societal labels, identify your hidden agendas and disconnect from your relationships in order to tell yourself the truth.

Yes, you MUST tell yourself the entire, raw naked truth about who you really are without all of your stuff – degrees, education, homes, expectations, money, connections, networks, roles, positions and possessions.  You have to strip away all of your external baggage, your embedded beliefs and your childhood programming so that you can get to the core of who you are – your truth.

falsehood_truthGetting to the truth or the core of who you are may not  be easy; is a process. The unveiling of your core may take time.  It may take tons of questions, and many of your questions may not immediately have answers. But ASK yourself the “who am I” question and then QUESTION your answers.  Critically reflect on your responses, and honestly  examine your heart, mind and soul. Trust me, sometimes the sifting and the pondering of your answers produces the most clarity and the greatest insight into who you really are.

I wish you well as you embark and/or continue on your “I AM” journey to self-discovery. Even if the journey takes longer than expected, don’t give up. Stay focused and stay curious about who you are. Once you know who you really are, you can better design a life that supports, sustains, satisfies and strengthens you. That’s incentive enough right?

I have provided a link from an interview that shares parts of my own self-discovery journey. Like your journey, my journey was a process too. I hope this interview provides food for thought. .Click Here

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I am also publishing an anthology called The Strength of My Soul: Stories of Sisterhood, Triumph and Inspiration. The anthology is a collection of stories that celebrates the strength of 27 women who overcame challenges in their lives.  Their stories changed my life and I can’t wait to share their stories with you so stay tuned. The book will be released later this month.

 

Enjoy the interview and why not pre-order The Strength of My Soul now so that you can get it right off the press? We are offering free shipping until January 17th. You can order here.Order here

Thank you again for your time! I look forwarding to our new year together. 2016 is going to be epic.

Blessings!  SharRon SharRon

 

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Self- Confidence – How do you define?

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I was featured on a radio show about self-confidence. I would love for you to take a listen and I would love to hear from you.

SharRon Jamison is helping women step into their power through her books and coaching but her life was never that way. She lives life by being her authentic self without caring what others think of her.

As a child, she was ridiculed and degraded because of the color of her skin which gave her low self confidence. It went as far as going through depression but she knew she had to make a choice so that she can be the person she is today.

Find out what it takes to be a misfit in the world and why it can be good for your soul.

Click here to listen to the episode ===> http://thetaoofselfconfidence.com/83

 

How do you define self-confidence?

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