We are impatient people; the pace of our culture has conditioned us to rush, rush, rush and rush.
However, there is one thing that we continue to wait on….and that’s healing.
For some reason, we wait and wait and wait as if a magical time will appear that will make us feel better, do better or be better.
Granted…. time may help the sting of the pain go away, and a scab may form to conceal or protect the wound. But the wound is still there and the pain is still near. The memories and the emotional aftermath are still sabotaging your happiness, your health and your wholeness.
Yes, time has passed but the feelings have not; the feelings are present. The hurt feelings are still lurking and lingering in your mind and still causing disruption in your life.
How do I know? Because you are still easily triggered by small infractions. Your emotional buttons are still easily pushed. You are defensive. You are insecure. You will cuss, cut and criticize people at a moment’s notice. And, you project your pain on others. Your emotional and physical states are visible for everyone to see. You are attempting to hide in plain sight.
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No, I am not a mind reader but I can quickly recognize unaddressed pain and unacknowledged trauma. I know what it feels like, sounds like and acts like. I know because for years my pain swallowed me and suffocated me. Memories of my trauma held me hostage and dictated my every move.
For years I waited and waited. I stopped living as I waited to be rescued and relieved from the constant gnawing in my stomach. I waited as I rehearsed and recycled my pain. I waited and I ate and ate. I did my best to find relief in Twinkies, cake and chips but all I got was unwanted pounds on my body.
I finally had to admit that I was afraid to confront my pain and that I did everything to avoid the discomfort associated with healing. I hid, I hesitated but I continued to hurt. And not only did I hurt, I hurt any and everybody that came in my direction.
I not only injured people, I settled. I settled for unfulfilling relationships, I settled for the status quo, I settled for safe, even though I NEVER really felt safe.
So, here’s the critical question that I had to muster up the courage to ask myself. Why wait to heal? Why spend your precious time in isolation, limitation or degradation? Why wait to speak your truth, live your truth or own your truth? Why delay your own happiness for “counterfeit comfort”?
Yes, “counterfeit comfort” because coping is not emotional comfort. Coping is faking. Coping is denial. Coping is acting. Coping is numbing. “Counterfeit comfort” is many things but it is NOT peace.
The time to heal is now! If everything else in your life is so urgent, why not make your peace of mind urgent? Why not make your emotional health a top priority? Why not invest resources to deal with your inner gremlins once and for all? Why not seek counseling, coaching or medical intervention?
You deserve to feel that you are equipped and empowered to be the author and an advocate of your own life. You deserve to know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you have the agency and the authority to design a life that celebrates and reflects the real you.
If you want to start the process, maybe RISE can get you started. It’s a 10-day program of videos and worksheets that will help think critically about what you want and what you need to be the best version of yourself. The best news is that it costs only $7. RISE is a great start to prepare you to SOAR. http://sharronjamison.com/rise/.
If you are interested in meeting people who are also committed to experiencing big breakthroughs and are on a journey of self-actualization, please contact me. There is a like-minded group of successful people just like you willing to connect with you and support you on your own transformational journey.
I would love to support you, but if not, I hope you will make yourself a priority. I hope you always know that you can depend on you to do what’s best for you. I hope you know that YOU ARE WORTH IT…YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO FEEL HAPPY, HEALTHY AND WHOLE!
Enjoy this video….
Celebrating you and your success,
SharRon, Your Life Strategist