I am always surprised when people tell me that they are NOT courageous. When I am blessed to hear some of the events and experiences of their lives, it is obvious that they are courageous. And, they are not just mildly courageous, they are extremely courageous. They are bold, brave and gutsy. They are taking steps, making moves and making decisions in the face of loss, fear, rejection, and danger…. that’s COURAGEOUS!
So, why do people underestimate how courageous they are but see examples of courage in others?
I wish I knew the answer to that question. Because if more people understood and accepted how courageous they really were they would change how they navigate in the world. They would celebrate themselves and appreciate that taking small actions and making consistent moves every day is courageous. They would understand that expressing and even having a dissenting view is courageous. They would accept that being who they are in a world that penalizes or marginalizes difference is courageous. They would realize that being a parent, a partner, and a professional is courageous. They would understand that rebounding from deep despair, depression, and devastation only to emerge stronger and wiser is courageous. Even talking to people who they were taught to degrade, hate and avoid, is courageous.
Here’s the bottom line. You are courageous. You may not feel as if you are courageous as you need to be or want to be, but the seeds of courage are inside of you. The seeds may need to be activated or nurtured to grow BUT they are there inside of your soul.
Since you are already courageous, what can you do to be MORE courageous?
- Get to know yourself better. The more you understand who you are, what you need, what you value and what you desire (clarity) the easier it is to walk in courage.
- Get comfortable dancing with fear. Why? Fear is not going away. When you are stretching yourself to do something that you have never done before, you may feel twinges of fear. Get use to it. Dance with the fear – I like to call fear activation butterflies – and SOAR!
- Accept that walking courageously may result in a loss. Let’s face it. When you are being honest, and when you behave in alignment with your own heart and values, somebody will get upset. But so, what! Don’t stay in a “prison of their expectations” and forfeit your right to life, love, and liberty.
Today, accept that you are courageous! Feel it in your heart. Reflect on all of the things that you do daily that take courage. Remind yourself of all of your “FIRSTS” that required you to step outside of your comfort zone. List your big wins and identify what made you win. And finally, commit to finding new ways to win in your life every day.
You are courageous! You can do what you want to do and what you need to do!
I believe in you!
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Your Life Strategist, SharRon