Do you follow outdated rules that don’t align with your heart? Do you participate in activities that you don’t enjoy just to make other people happy? Do you stay in energy-sucking careers because you were taught that certain careers give you status? Do you participate in religions that villainize you and make you feel unworthy and unlovable?
Are you living in a box?
I thought I didn’t live in a box or follow outdated rules until I started listing all of the reasons why I was not following my heart. Over the years I practically talked myself out of most of my goals.
When I was younger, I told myself that I could not start a business because I was a single mother.
In my twenties, I told myself that I could not be a lose weight because I had been overweight for years.
When I was new to the corporate setting, I told myself that I could not get promoted in corporate America because I didn’t have the right mentor.
When I turned 50 a few years ago, I told myself that I could not feel sexy because 50 meant that I was over-the-hill.
10 years ago, I told myself that I could not write a book because nobody knew me.
I had tons of reasons for not pursuing my dreams, and my reasons were logical, at least I thought they were.
But what I realized was that I was basing my life on lessons that I had learned in childhood. The lessons about what it meant to be a woman, a mother, middle-age, and successful were based on the stereotypes, programming, and conditioning that I learned as a child.
I didn’t know it then but I was using my past to determine how far I could reach in the future. And, I was acting as if those old ways of thinking were true.
Here’s the truth: we all have beliefs that are keeping us in places that don’t serve us and with people who don’t support us. We all are making or have made decisions based on lessons and beliefs that were passed down from our parents and society. Unfortunately, some of those lessons are keeping us trapped in mediocrity and misery. Some of the lessons are out of sync with who we really are. And, some of the lessons could be even filling us with doubt, fear, and low expectations.
It’s time to tell the truth: It’s time to DE-BOX yourself! It’s time to get out of the boxes that society shoved you in.
Just think about it……
How would YOUR life change if you were able to identify the boxes of cultural conditioning that prevented you from living your life as fully as you desired? What would happen if you felt empowered enough to climb out of the boxes of societal expectations and people-pleasing to do what you were born to do, and not settle for what you feel trained or tricked to do? How would your life change if you climbed out of the box of religious traditions and doctrines and developed a deep relationship with God? What would happen if you left the box of assigned gender roles and behaved in a way that felt right to you?
My friend, you don’t have to live in a box! There is a big, limitless world waiting to be explored and experienced BY YOU!
You don’t have to be confined to what’s acceptable, practical, or familiar. And, you don’t have to conform to what society tells you either.
YOU can do what makes you happy!
Over the new few weeks, take inventory. Determine if you are living in a box of expectations, societal norms, and outdated rules that are stripping you of your joy and minimizing your gifts.
You deserve to live outside of a BOX so you can SOAR HIGHER!