The other day, somebody mentioned that her values were important to her.
I said, “Really. What are your values.”
She shared them, and I was shocked. She said she valued diversity, inclusion, openness, and authenticity.
I was floored because she constantly made statements that were racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, and elitist.
She constantly shared her opinion about who “exhibited leadership qualities” and who had gravitas.
She was quick to talk about “those people” and why something wasn’t fair to people who “really worked hard.” Code: white entitlement.
Thankfully, I was on zoom call. I turned off my camera because I know my face showed that I was not only perplexed but incredulous. It was too comical to be angry.
I didn’t have the energy to engage her or discuss her thoughts, even though she did her best to get my feedback.
For my mental health, I no longer participate in conversations about DEIJ when I don’t feel like it or when there is limited ROI. I no longer sign up for emotional labor unless I feel called to it.
The truth is, our values are personal, but they should NOT be private. People close to you or people who work with you should be able to identify what you stand for and what matters to you.
In other words, you should live in such a way that everybody can see what guides and governs your life.
My elders should use to say, ” I should be able to know a few things by how you do a few things.” Hmmmm…..
So today, ask yourself how you are demonstrating, modeling, expressing, or supporting your values?
If you are not representing what you believe or what you support, what can you do to make your personal values come alive so that you are a change agent or a role model for what you espouse?
Just a thought!
What do you think?
I can’t wait to hear from you.