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It’s Not About the Competence You Don’t Have. It’s About the Company You Keep!

Have you ever noticed that some of the brightest, most accomplished people still struggle with life’s biggest decisions? I have. Over the years, I’ve watched remarkable people struggle to make decisions about retirement, careers, relationships, finances, purpose, and what they want their next chapter to be. The people who struggled didn’t lack education, experience, or […]

Their “Wait” Was Not My “No”

When I entered the fitness profession in the early 1990s, I quickly discovered that I did not fit the image many people had of a fitness professional. At the time, the industry promoted a very narrow standard of fitness, beauty, and leadership. Unfortunately, I did not fit that standard because I was a Black woman […]

The Place Was The Same… But I Was Not.

There is a particular kind of transition that we do not talk about often enough. Most people talk about starting something new. A new job. A new relationship. A new city. A new chapter. But what receives far less attention is the experience of returning to something familiar and discovering that you are no longer […]

Not Everyone Is Qualified to Witness Your Your Sacred Journeys So BE CAREFUL Who You Build Around

A couple of days ago, I felt led to share something personal. As some of you may know, over the last 18 months, I have been working my way back to health. Thankfully, I am getting stronger. My stamina is increasing. I am slowly beginning to feel more like myself again, and for that, I […]

Women Over 50: You Are NOT Starting Over — You Are Starting With Experience and Hard-Earned Wisdom

We live in a culture obsessed with youth, trends, and constant innovation. And unfortunately, many people are quietly absorbing the message that newer is better, younger is more valuable, and our experience somehow matters less than innovation and technology. But after decades of leadership, ministry, coaching, and navigating corporate spaces, I have come to believe […]

You Are Not Done Until You Are Dead: You Are NOT TOO Old To Begin Again!

“You’re Not Done Until You’re Dead.” There’s something my elders used to say. They didn’t say it to pressure me. They said it to remind me that life is always asking something of us: to grow, to evolve, to heal, to contribute, and to honor our purpose. Why? Our purpose does not disappear with time. […]

The Day I Stopped Pretending I Was Fine

There is a kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep. My elders called it being “bone weary.” And I always thought I understood what they meant. I did not. Not really. Not until I came home from church one Sunday, walked through the door, and something in me just… gave way. I […]

I Know What I Carry: Why Owning Your Strengths Changes Everything

There is a shift happening. It is not loud. It is not dramatic. But it is real. I hear it in conversations. I see it in my clients. And if I am honest, I have felt it in my own life. It shows up as a quiet unease—a growing awareness that something is no longer […]

Don’t Fall in Love with the “Water” and Forget to Care for the “Well”

My elders used to say, “Don’t fall so much in love with the ‘water’ that you forget to care for the ‘well’”. For a long time, I understood that as a simple reminder to be grateful. To say thank you. To not take things for granted. But as I have grown—through my relationships, my responsibilities, […]

Your Reputation Is More Important Than Revenge

Many years ago, my elders shared a piece of wisdom with me that I didn’t fully understand at the time. They said simply, “Your reputation is more important than revenge.” Like many lessons that come from elders, the words sounded wise but distant. They felt like something meant for someone else’s life—someone else’s circumstances. At […]

Witnessing Softness In Black Women

February 27, 2026

We rarely talk about softness when we talk about Black women. We talk about her strength. We talk about her leadership. We talk about her resilience. Yet softness may be one of the most sacred parts of her humanity. ( I explore this topic more in the Deciding To Soar podcast. You can listen on […]

Seven Lessons on Overflow, Contemplation, and Sacred Sisterhood

February 15, 2026

There are seasons in life when something in you whispers, begin. Recently, I recorded my first interview on Deciding to Soar: Living Life Your Own Way. It was not perfect. It was unscripted. It was unedited. It was human. And I did it anyway. Why? Growth does not require perfection. It requires progression. And progression requires […]

Do You See Us? The Healing Power of Witnessing Black Women

January 31, 2026

Last week, I began a series on the power of witnessing. Based on the feedback I received, it resonated deeply. Many of you shared that it named something you’ve been feeling—at work, in leadership, and during seasons of transition and uncertainty—something you hadn’t quite had language for. So today, I want to continue that conversation, […]

You Don’t Need To Do More Work. You Need To Be Witnessed.

January 25, 2026

One of the most important lessons my elders taught me in my early twenties was this: You don’t need to do more work. You need to be witnessed. They were not discouraging excellence or effort. They were challenging a dangerous assumption that performance and labor alone guarantee elevation. They understood something many of us eventually […]

What My Elders Taught Me About Work and Worth: How A Fork Almost Cost Me My Future

January 16, 2026

Over 40 years ago, early in my career, I found myself sitting at a formal dinner table in a professional setting that felt far beyond anything I had ever experienced. The table was set with more forks, spoons, and glasses than I knew how to navigate. The setting was so unfamiliar that I questioned whether […]

Trust Your Wings, Not The Branch

December 14, 2025

“Trust your wings, not the branch.” My spiritual mothers taught me that proverb when I was young. At the time, it felt wise. Now, it feels necessary. Because in 2026, many people are confronting a truth we’ve long avoided: the branches we relied on are not as steady as we once believed. When my spiritual […]

Holy Rebellion: When Restlessness Becomes Revelation

November 8, 2025

In my previous podcast episode and blog, I discussed ruptures — those sacred breakings that occur when the soul can no longer carry what the ego insists on keeping. And talking about ruptures really resonated, as I received many responses from people around the world. First…..THANK YOU! Thank you to those who shared their reflections, […]

Your “ENOUGH” Is Holy!

October 17, 2025

There comes a moment when the weight of disrespect becomes too heavy to bear. When your body tightens, your spirit trembles, and your soul whispers, no more. For many Black women, that whisper doesn’t come from weakness; it comes from wisdom. It’s the moment when exhaustion and enlightenment meet, when silence feels like betrayal, and […]

Stop Telling Your Business

September 28, 2025

Some People Don’t Act Like Sanctuaries; They Act Like Cesspools. Yes, I said it, and I will not take it back. I know that my words may sound harsh, but I say it with love because I want to protect you from the pain of misplaced trust. Because… When we are tired, hungry for relief, […]

Do ONLY What Matters!!!

September 10, 2025

Lately, I’ve been noticing how easy it is NOT to focus on what really matters. When you are experiencing numerous challenges and changes—such as job loss, life transitions, injustice, political chaos, financial strain, global crises, and personal uncertainties—it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or distracted. It is easy to feel like you’re just existing or just living in […]

September’s Invitation: Time For A Sacred Check-In

August 25, 2025

Welcome to September and the beauty of fall. There’s something about this season—the crisp air, the turning leaves, the earlier sunsets, children returning to school—that invites us to pause and reflect. It feels like nature itself is whispering: things are shifting, and so are you. But September is also special for another reason. It’s the […]

From GLUE to GOLD: Thriving Beyond Downsizing

August 18, 2025

My mother once told me, “Be the glue, but don’t lose your gold.” As a child, I didn’t understand the wisdom behind her words. But life has a way of making old lessons resurface, especially when we need them most. And today, that wisdom is needed more than ever, because so many talented women are […]

Are You Just Being Needed or Being Valued?

Many great causes and movements need YOU. Why? Our communities are in crisis. The world is full of worthy causes, urgent concerns, and endless calls for help. And if you are justice-minded, heart-led, and spiritually grounded, it is natural to want to show up. To help. To heal. To contribute. And let me say this […]

Be the Gate, Not the Gutter!

I’m so glad you’re here. Whether you arrived through curiosity, community, or a soft whisper from your soul, I want to thank you for visiting my website. I know life moves fast, and time is sacred, so I honor your presence and pause. Lately, I’ve been reflecting deeply on how we move through the world […]

When Help Isn’t Healing: What I Learned About Support During My Sacred Season

Asking for help isn’t always easy. But learning to receive it—that’s an entirely different kind of courage. How do I know? Recently, I found myself navigating a difficult season physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I was sick, and for the first time in a long time, I had to lean on others more than I wanted […]

The Power of SHIFT Support: Reframing Strength, Asking for Help, and Becoming Whole

I hope this message finds you well-rested in your body, nourished in your spirit, and deeply connected to those who help you feel seen, safe, and supported. We all need and deserve that kind of care in our lives, especially today. 💜 Family, recently, some friends and clients have shared that they are experiencing “life […]

You Are Built For Breakthroughs!

What if everything you need to soar is already inside you? What if your life isn’t broken, but simply breaking open to release your gifts, talents, and wisdom? I recently had the profound honor of joining the powerhouse hosts of the G-Spot Podcast—Alex Okoroji, Frankie Picasso, Clara Rufai, and Mayuri Naidu—for a soulful, sacred, and […]

What My 10-Month Illness Taught Me About Friendship and Wholeness

Sometimes, you learn more about your relationships when you are sick than when you are well. During my 10-month health challenge, that’s precisely what I learned. After months of pretending that everything was fine, I had to be honest about what was happening to me. And what became crystal clear was that I was extremely […]

Sacred Seasons: The Journey to a Purpose-Filled Life

Life doesn’t always unfold in a straight line. Life often moves in seasons—sacred, shifting seasons that shape how we grow, how we lead, and how we live. Over the past few weeks, I’ve been talking with many visionaries, leaders, and purpose-seekers about life seasons. We have discussed how seasons help people rethink their lives, values, […]

3 Ways to Empower Yourself—And 1 Mistake That Keeps You Stuck

Do you feel empowered? With everything happening around us—politically, personally, and professionally—feeling empowered is more important than ever. Why? When we feel empowered, we make decisions that protect our wellness, uplift our communities, and support our loved ones. We use our personal power with courage. So today, I want to explore what self-empowerment really looks […]

Starting A New Chapter With A New Vision, Old Values & A Great Victory

February 16, 2025

Some insights don’t fade with time—they deepen. A few years ago, I recorded a podcast episode while sitting by the beach, reflecting on what it meant to step into a new season with clarity and courage. Today, as I continue to heal and as the world shifts in complex ways, I realize this message is […]

What My 7-Month Illness Taught Me About Joy

February 4, 2025

Have you ever found yourself waking up in the middle of the night with a gnawing question: “Is this all there is?” or “Am I living the life I was meant to live?” If you’ve ever wrestled with these thoughts, you might be experiencing what philosophers and psychologists call a “telos crisis.” The word “telos” […]

Is It Time To Make A Change? It’s Time To Get CLEAR!

December 20, 2024

What needs to change? Although I ask myself this question regularly, there’s something about the end of the year that makes me dig a little deeper to ensure that I am really happy—not fake happy or “just settling happy”—but soul happy. I constantly gauge how I feel because I want to experience the soul-enriching, soul-nourishing […]

When An Election Hurts Your Heart

December 5, 2024

The recent election and the entire electoral process were extremely painful for many people. Not only did the results fill some with dread, but the outcomes also instilled fear and a genuine concern about the state of our democracy. Many people, especially people who have been historically marginalized, told me that the outcome of the […]

Are Ghosts Holding You Back?

November 9, 2024

This election season has me thinking a lot about ghosts—not the ghosts we see in movies or cartoons, but the types of ghosts that interfere with our ability to live honest, peaceful, and soul-nourishing lives. So, today, I want to talk about the invisible ghosts from your past – experiences, beliefs, doubts, fears, trauma, obligations, […]

How To Deal With Haters In Your Home!

October 15, 2024

People who throw stones at you are simply in love with where you’re going. – Dr. Maya Angelou Does this quote from the late Dr. Maya Angelou resonate with you? When I first saw the quote, it made me think of a hater—someone who criticizes or tries to undermine one’s dreams, beliefs, reputation, or goals. […]

Why Not Take Your Own Advice?

October 8, 2024

Great News! I finally took my own advice and transitioned my private community podcast to a public platform. It took me a few years longer than I expected—because …well, I thought a public podcast had to be perfect. But….I had to accept that my public podcast would not be perfect. First, because I don’t believe […]

Create A Life That Honors Your Soul!

September 19, 2024

What would you do if you lived outside of the expectations and imaginations of others? What would you do if you stepped into your full humanity and stopped denying yourself pleasure, joy, and rest? What could you create if you left or changed your career to align with your dreams and desire for more freedom? […]

Some People Can Only Give Judgement, Not Support

September 4, 2024

I value confidentiality and never share who I work with, which may not be the best marketing decision, but it’s a choice I value. Why? There have been times in my life when I felt extremely lost and full of shame, and I needed sacred space-holders and secret-keepers who could help me navigate critical life […]

Opting Out Is Also A Courageous Option!

Sometimes, after I facilitate workshops for corporate women, my heart breaks. Why? Some women are really struggling in corporate environments. And honestly, I OVERstand because it is not always easy for me, either. But here’s the truth….. sometimes you CAN’T listen to the advice of your friends, especially if they don’t have experience in corporate […]

Do You Need To Sit?

As a child, when there was a storm, my elders would say, “Go sit your narrow behind down somewhere. God is speaking.” Now, when I look at all the political and historical storms in the world, I wonder if God is demanding that we sit, not be idle, but to sit down somewhere. Maybe God […]

Don’t Reject Any Part Of YOU!

I used to hide parts of me because I felt ashamed, guilty, inadequate, dirty, and awkward. I hid my truth so much that I stopped living in integrity, alignment, and peace. I hid my genius so much that I didn’t honor my talents, gifts, and expertise and failed to contribute fully to the world. I […]

Reclaim Your WILL And Find Peace!

Hey there, How are you doing? I wanted to check in because a lot is happening around the world. And honestly, the world feels a bit heavy right now. For some, it may even feel heartbreaking and emotionally exhausting as people struggle to be heard, seen, and protected. I know many of you may be […]

Experience More Victories

I bet we all know people who are always starting new projects. One day they are opening a store. The next day they are going back to school. The next day, they are moving to a foreign country. The next day they are making a movie. The next day they are starting an organization. Every […]

3 Clues You Are Elevating

Do any of these questions sound familiar to you? How do I know when I am ready for the next level? When is it time to pivot or change my career? What unconscious beliefs are making me stay in environments that I have outgrown? How do I know it’s time to leave the marriage, the […]

Gatekeepers Have Big EGOs But Little Power When You Are Rooted!

Last year, someone thought they could block my progress and prevent me from achieving one of my goals. They thought they had the power to determine my destiny. Wrong! I know people have also tried to block your progess because we all have gatekeepers in our lives. We all have people at our jobs, communities, […]

Rooted To Rise: A Journey Back To Yourself

February 14, 2024

Do you realize since birth, you have been gradually “un-rooted” from your true identity? Instead of being supported into becoming your highest authentic Self, you have been shaped into what people felt you should be or could be. Little by little, you were molded to be more socially acceptable, predictable, and controllable, with little regard […]

What An Ex-Priest Taught Me About Being Honest & Free!

February 6, 2024

First, thank you so much for reading last week’s newsletter. I am so grateful that it resonated with so many of you. I received many comments acknowledging that what I shared spoke to your heart! I also received copies of journal entries, pictures of vision boards, and soul-enriching poems! Hearing from you made my heart […]

You Are NOT Out Of Place, But In Position!

January 22, 2024

If you are reading this message, you are probably a cycle-breaker, leader, visionary, pioneer, or truth-teller. You are most likely a brave person who intentionally resists the status quo, norms, and conformity. You probably live life on your own terms, honor your boundaries, have courageous conversations, don’t invest time in shallow relationships, and believe in […]

Embracing MORE in 2024!

January 4, 2024

What a year! 2023 was a year of paradoxes. Up and Downs! Contradictions and Consistencies! Set-backs and Set-ups! Joy and Pain! Mountaintop Moments and Valley Lows! Inclusion and Exclusion! Happiness and Horror! But despite the individual and collective polarities we have experienced and witnessed in 2023, I am still convinced that goodness will prevail. I […]

Rediscovering Dreams, Nurturing Growth, and Embracing Authenticity

January 2, 2024

Yesterday was the first time in 20 years that I spent Christmas with my parents. Celebrating and enjoying the holidays with them was such a blessing. While there, I saw this wonderful picture of me when I was 7. It made me ask myself: What did this little girl want? What did this little girl […]

Success Is A Personal Thing!

December 14, 2023

Success is such a personal thing. Yes, it’s personal! Success is what YOU want for your life, and you must CREATE it. Now, it won’t be easy because sometimes, success requires you to tear down or strategically quit something you spent time, money, and energy making or cultivating. And leaving something you invested in is […]

Do What You MUST Do NOW!

December 3, 2023

“What are the things that if I don’t do….I will die inside?” That was a question that the late Toni Morrison asked herself when she felt her dreams slipping away. For years, Toni Morrison, who became one of the most celebrated authors in the world, dreamed of writing books. However, her job as an editor – […]

Don’t Let Your Village Cloud Your Vision

November 7, 2023

There will always be people in your life who will NOT and cannot SEE you! Even if they work with you, live with you, worship with you, or train with you, they may overlook or minimize your brilliance because they are so tethered to stereotypes, labels, or their own understanding of who you are. Do […]

Bet On Yourself, Not A System!

October 20, 2023

Therapist: Why do you keep betting on the system more than you bet on yourself? Me: What systems? How am I betting on them? Tears still come to my eyes when I think of this painful conversation. I still feel sad when I remember struggling to prove myself in an unsupportive corporate environment. For years, […]

Are You Watering Weeds?

October 7, 2023

Are you watering weeds and expecting flowers to bloom? If my elders saw someone using their effort, energy, and enthusiasm in unproductive ways, they would say they were “watering weeds.” “Watering weeds” may not be a common expression today, but it is a statement I am exploring more in my life and with my clients. […]

Every Arrival Is Not An Accomplishment!

October 1, 2023

Are you wishing and working for something that you really want? Tough question, right? Frequently, we struggle, toil, and sacrifice for goals that are not really ours. We spend the best years of our lives chasing dreams that were really “imposed expectations” or a just way for us to gain approval and validation from others. […]

Don’t Be Limited By Labels!

September 27, 2023

I hate being labeled. Don’t you? Being boxed in or imprisoned by someone’s myopic thinking challenges my sense of justice and respect. I am like most folks: I don’t appreciate being restricted by the opinions of people who don’t know me, especially when they don’t know themselves. But this is what I KNOW to be […]

Success is never about knowing more stuff; SUCCESS is about knowing more SELF

September 8, 2023

Often, people spend a lot of time learning about relationship strategies, investment plans, and career tactics, hoping to create a life that honors their deepest desires and goals. But what they don’t learn enough about is themselves. They don’t learn what excites their souls, what ignites their hearts, or what delights their bodies. They don’t […]

Who Can Help Me vs How Can I Do It Alone

August 31, 2023

Lately, I have been researching a lot about procrastination, and I have learned that procrastination is a form of wisdom. I know…hear me out. I learned that procrastination is a by-product of having big dreams and goals but not feeling like you know HOW to pursue them. According to research, most people would procrastinate less […]

Living LONG or Living WELL or Both?

August 14, 2023

Did you know there’s a difference between LIVING LONG and LIVING WELL? I never considered the difference until one of my mentors explained what LIVING WELL was. According to my mentor, LIVING WELL means being the best version of yourself. It’s when you are doing work that you love, making a positive impact on the […]

At A Crossroads & Feeling Lost?

Are you at a crossroads in your life? I am. If you are like most folks, being at a crossroads in life can feel unsettling. Not knowing exactly what to do, when to do it, or where to go can cause anxiety, inner turmoil, and fear. And the fear can even feel MORE overwhelming when […]

Lessons Learned Along The Way

July is my birthday month! First, I am so grateful that God allowed me to live another year because I am here only by divine permission. Thank you, God! Over the last 12 months, I learned some critical lessons about life and business that I want to share with you. I pray that what I […]

Are You Willing To Lead?

You are a leader! Do you believe that? Last week, I started a workshop stating that everyone in the room was a leader. What was puzzling was that some folks didn’t agree with my statement. Some shared that they didn’t feel like leaders because they didn’t have decision-making power. Others talked about titles, positions, and […]

Life Is About A Good Pace, Not A Fast Race!

Recently, I have been thinking a great deal about society’s obsession with speed. The constant barrage of messages promoting simple solutions, quick fixes, and 30-day guarantees feels overwhelming and deceiving. Because speed is not everything and it can’t fix everything! Having a fulfilling, hustle-free life is about establishing a healthy PACE! So, what if we […]

Only You Know What’s Best For You

So often, we believe we can only feel and think one way about a specific topic. We frequently feel bullied to choose between this or that, as if there are only two options to consider. But life often exists in the grey; life is rarely black or white. There are few absolutes. Yes, absolutes are […]

What Is Your Life Saying To You?

Have you ever wondered how you would look, live and love if you did most of what you promised yourself you would do? During my weekly inventory, I think about my life. I examine my choices, thoughts, actions, and comments to assess if my life resembles and reflects the promises I made to myself and […]

Start Sitting At The Right Tables

A few days ago, one of my mentors asked me why I was sitting at the wrong tables. Initially, I didn’t understand his comment. But I soon realized that his question was metaphorical and invited me to examine if I was spending time in life-expanding, soul-nourishing places. So, being the thinker I am, I considered […]

Acts Of Courage Come From HOPE

Happy March! This month marks the beginning of Spring, which always signals a change in seasons, longer days, fun vacations, and exciting transformations. To me, all of those changes signal new HOPE! And with HOPE comes a call to activate courage, because hope without courage changes nothing. But when hope is partnered with courage, lives change, […]

Don’t Rush Into A Resolution

January 21, 2023

Even though nothing is magical about the first of the year, I know the first few weeks of 2023 will bring many transformations–thoughtful endings, a few abrupt exits, many renewed commitments, and some energizing fresh starts. So, consider what will move you closer to your dreams and desires as you make resolutions or intentions. I […]

Go Home!

December 30, 2022

It is easy to lose your way in a world that tries to convince you to live outside of your own skin, to mistrust your own wisdom, and to deny your own purpose. But what if you went home to yourself? What if you courageously went back home to yourself, armed with deep-seated truth, soul-nourishing […]

Life Is Just A Big Experiment!

December 13, 2022

YOU GET TO EXPERIMENT! Yes, you get to experiment because life is just one big experiment. You don’t need to know everything to move forward, and you don’t have to hustle or manipulate people to get what you want. If you know … Your values Your needs Your strengths Your desires Your needs Your non-negotiables […]

The Shift into Sovereignty

November 4, 2022

What is it called when people finally believe and trust their desires enough to take action? I call that period in our lives — The SHIFT into Sovereignty. And guess what? Many people are currently making that courageous shift, especially those exploring additional aspects of their identities, stepping into their divine callings, and understanding their deepest […]

Now What?

October 12, 2022

Last week I delivered a new keynote presentation to a group of high-performing, heart-centered folks over the age of 45. I prepared a specific speech for the audience, but the night before my presentation, my spirit told me to change the topic, and I did. And without notes or slides, I gave a presentation called NOW […]

September Is the Month Of Completion

September 24, 2022

Happy September! It’s the 9th month, and the number 9 symbolizes completion. For me, that’s exciting because it reminds me that I have fulfilled an important stage in my life and that I am ready for something new. But even though embarking on something new sounds exciting, it can also feel daunting, especially when you are […]

What 3 Weeks Of COVID Taught Me

August 29, 2022

I know it’s been a while since I wrote a blog, but unfortunately, I had Covid. For over three weeks, I tested positive, and honestly, I still have not recovered. I am still experiencing extreme fatigue, occasional migraines, sporadic dizziness, and mild hair loss. But through it all, I am thankful. I am alive, and […]

You Belong To You

August 26, 2022

I BELONG TO ME! When I was a little girl, my elders always said, “Always keep the best of you for yourself.” It took me years to understand what that adage meant. But over the years, I realized it meant holding on to your dreams, never compromising your integrity, being honest even when lying was […]

You Are Worthy Of Support

To live in an unstable, unjust world, you must get and stay rooted in your own humanity. Why? Because when you feel as if nothing is sacred or safe, it’s hard to feel anchored. It’s hard to stand up for your values and discern your truth so you can make thoughtful decisions that honor your […]

Reclaim Your True Identity

I love meeting people who grew up with lots of love, affirmation, and unconditional acceptance. I love to meet them because, unfortunately, people who received unconditional love and endless support as children are rare. Yes, rare. Unfortunately, most of us grew up feeling that we were wrong, extremely weird, or felt as if we did […]

Please Check On Your Black and Black Collegues

Early this morning, a few Black women from various industries prayed, shared, and cried together. We had to because we know that tomorrow, so many Black people will be expected to go to work, participate on virtual calls, and smile WHILE their hearts are bleeding and breaking. Some Black folks will be so anxious and […]

2 Things That Give You Inner Strength

When you are experiencing challenges in your life, you don’t need pity, you need the TRUTH. You need the Truth about who you are and whose you are. You need the Truth about your ability, your capacity, and your tenacity. You need the Truth about the power of prayer, the power of possibility, and the […]

Success Is Never About Knowing More Stuff; Success Is About Knowing More of SELF

Some people spend their entire lives learning how to follow rules, how to hide their identities, and how to collude with the dominant culture to get ahead in the world. They learn how to perform, please, and produce for others, but never learn how to pursue their own dreams. They don’t learn what excites their […]

What Do You Feel Called To Do?

In a world that is reeling from so much pain, grief, and suffering, staying emotionally well and feeling safe are not easy feats. It takes discipline and intention to stay whole and joyful these days. I know I haven’t shared a newsletter in a few weeks or engaged much on social media. And you know […]

Leaders Need Love, Too!

February 16, 2022

Since January, I’ve been meeting and speaking with leaders from many industries and from all walks of life, and I have heard one common theme: many leaders are trying to do life alone or they don’t have adequate support. So many of them are bearing the weight of multiple responsibilities and roles, and shouldering so much […]

Go Home And Have Peace!

February 11, 2022

As a child, my family moved around a lot. My parents were teenage parents and our lives centered around their jobs, college, and, of course, finances. I didn’t understand it then, but I now understand that my young parents were figuring life out along the way and doing the best they could to complete their […]

The More We Know Community Show: Conversations Cultivating Change

February 6, 2022

Something magical happens when two Black women discuss the power of purpose. Why? We understand that following purpose is not easy in a culture that undervalues who we are. In a culture that constantly bombards us with messages aimed at undermining our self-worth, self-value, and our sense of dignity, we know it takes courage and […]

Happy Black History Month

February 1, 2022

My parents didn’t have much. They were just teenagers when they had my sister and me. Yet, they gave me something valuable. They taught me to love myself and reinforced my self-worth in a culture that insisted that I was nothing, dirty, and worthless. They exposed me to the power, the brilliance, and the beauty […]

A Few HUGS Can Help You Win!

January 20, 2022

HUGS will help you win! When you are trying something new, you need plenty of HUGS! Even though there is great power and comfort in a warm embrace, I am talking about different types of HUGS. What are HUGS? HUGS are essential ingredients for your success. H.U.G.S. stands for: H = You must understand your […]

Hurray For New Beginnings!

January 7, 2022

It’s benediction time! When you think of the word benediction, you probably think of religious rituals. But benedictions are not only for religion; they are also expressions of appreciation and respect delivered at significant endings to signify the beginning of another sacred journey. Benedictions are holy and cherished because they allow us to acknowledge all […]

Liminal Space

January 4, 2022

Daring to soar higher is the willingness to go through the liminal spaces so you can taste the sweetness of liberation, fulfillment, and meaning. And even though journeying through the liminal space is needed for your evolution, it can feel extremely destabilizing. Why? It’s a place and time for re-thinking, reimagining, rekindling, reckoning, and reassessing. […]

The Marriage Didn’t Last But I Did!

December 23, 2021

Today is an interesting day. It is the anniversary of my first marriage. A wedding day, which for many people are happy days, was a challenging day for me because I didn’t have support. You see, I was marrying a man of a different faith, and because of that, my family and most of my […]

Wine, Weed & Waffles

December 17, 2021

A couple of days ago, I posed this question to my coaching community. What do you do to cope when your soul KNOWS that you are not fulfilling your dreams, pursuing your divine call, or living up to your potential? One person said: “Every day, I come home and drink a bottle of wine because […]

You can’t choose where you are chained

December 13, 2021

My elders used to tell me that “ you can’t choose when you are chained.” This message still resonates with me today and I constantly ask myself — “what am I unknowingly chained to that is compromising my values, voice, and vision.” Not only do I vigorously interrogate my life, in my work with leaders, […]

Appropriate vs. Alignment

November 16, 2021

The other day, someone told me that my desires and dreams were inappropriate. Not appropriate? What she really meant was that I should behave in ways that society deemed and defined as “suitable” for a person like me. Since I am a Black middle-aged woman who plays basketball, challenges religious views, travels alone, […]

Let Your Imagination Guide You To Success

October 3, 2021

I hope this message finds you well, safe, and committed to being YOU, the real you. And as you are being YOU, I wanted to share something that is stretching me to take more radical action in my life. I hope it inspires you, too. So here it goes…. My parents were teenage parents. By […]

Your Values are Personal, But They Are Not Private.

September 12, 2021

The other day, somebody mentioned that her values were important to her. I said, “Really. What are your values.” She shared them, and I was shocked. She said she valued diversity, inclusion, openness, and authenticity. I was floored because she constantly made statements that were racist, homophobic, Islamophobic, and elitist. She constantly shared her opinion about […]

Being A “Mis-Fit” Is Your SuperPower For Success!

September 1, 2021

Most of my life I was called a misfit. Most of the groups I so desperately wanted to join rejected me, excluded me, or ridiculed me. They said that I was weird, but I wasn’t weird. I was just different, too different, to fit into groups that demanded blind conformity. Thankfully, I realized that my […]

Let’s Start A Fight!

August 17, 2021

Today is a good day to start a fight! No, I am not talking about violence, but I am talking about starting a fight in 3 critical areas. First, this week, start a fight to be more of yourself. Yes, be yourself, even if people try to pressure you to be who they want you to […]

IGNORE the Naysayers!

If you want to pursue your destiny, one skill that you must develop and strengthen is the skill of IGNORING the naysayers. Yes, ignoring the comments and opinions of people who don’t care about you, your gift, or your life’s calling is a critical skill! Just for the record, ignoring people does not […]

Your Life Will Teach You Where To Go!

As a child, my elders told me that if you pay attention to your life, it will teach you what you need to know, where you need to grow, and where you need to go. I never really thought much about that lesson, but over this last year, life has taught me many lessons about what I […]

If You Can’t Trust Yourself, Trust Your Track Record

As you start a new month, I have a hard question for you. Have you ever wanted to go for a promotion or start a business but felt inadequate? Have ever felt you were not qualified enough, did not have the right degree, and didn’t have the right connections to pursue your dreams? I have. […]

It’s Not A Badge Of Honor; It’s The Kiss Of Death!

Over the weekend, a group of women shared how a cultural assumption was gradually killing them. Yes, KILLING them! What’s the assumption: All Black Women Must Live Up To The Strong Black Women trope. I know saying that a woman is strong is supposed to be a compliment. But, is it really? When a Black woman is […]

Happiness = Follow the Light, Embrace Love, and Demand Your Liberation

Last weekend was a celebratory weekend and I hope you enjoyed the festivities. First, we celebrated Juneteenth, a glorious holiday to celebrate liberation. Even though Juneteenth has been celebrated for over 100 years in the Black community, this year, the federal government finally established it as a national holiday to commemorate the emancipation of enslaved […]

Are You A Discount Diva? Are You Undervaluing Yourself?

Have you ever played yourself cheap or betrayed yourself to fit into a specific group? I have. In fact, 25 years ago, one of my dearest friends told me I devalued myself so much that I navigated in the world like a “discount diva.” What? A discount diva? Boy, I was crushed! I was not […]

Don’t Wait Another Day!

It’s June. Half of 2021 is over. So now what? What are you going to do? The world is opening up, so what are you doing to live a bigger, bolder, and more satisfying life? What are you doing to ensure that you don’t get back on the hamster wheel and forget all the lessons you […]

Name Especially When It’s Easier To Numb

I have often struggled with depression. Some years it was just a low grade, couldn’t-get-my-groove-back type of feeling. And at other times, it was a debilitating feeling of dread and desperation. Of course, I explained my feelings away by convincing myself that my extreme sadness was due only to work stress, or that it was […]

Finding Your Real Self In A World Of Sameness

Sometimes we hide so long that we cannot remember who we really are. So, who are you? Do you know? Look in the mirror and re-introduce yourself to yourself. Remove the masks, make-up, money, mess, messages, and material stuff that obscure your essence. Step out of the shadows and step away from your public plastic […]

Have You Lost Your Voice?

Have you lost your voice? Not your physical voice, but the sound of your truth? Why does losing your voice matter? Losing your voice is how you gradually lose yourself. How? Losing your voice is when you fail to own your truth and stand up for what you believe in or trust. It’s when you swallow your words, […]

Born With or Born In…What’s True For YOU?

You were BORN WITH extreme wealth; you are rich. You have abilities, innate gifts, supernatural wisdom, and God-inspired uniqueness. You came to the world loaded and encoded – divinely equipped to shift the atmosphere, challenge paradigms, correct what was broken, and to create what was missing. You were BORN WITH everything you needed to fulfill […]

Your Wound-mates Are Shrinking You!

Do you have people in your life who look out for you? People who help you navigate social and political situations? People who support your mission, expand your movement, and help you make money? People who encourage you to showcase and optimize your talents and gifts? People who are confident enough to help you shine […]

What’s In Your Hand?

I hope you are well and find the silver linings amid the craziness in the world. I usually do not do this, but I had to share a conversation that I had with a friend yesterday. Friend: What are you doing? Me: I am studying. I have to speak tomorrow, and I want to say something […]

Sometimes You See Better With Your Eyes Closed

Imagination! Imagination is so important! When I young, my elders would say, “sometimes you see better with your eyes closed.” If I was tired, sad, or frustrated, they would remind me to close my eyes so I could SEE visions and dreams. They knew I would feel better, happier, safer, and more powerful if I […]

What Do Already KNOW But Refuse To Accept?

After 30 years of working with people, one thing I know for sure is that most people really know the truth. They may deny it, dilute it, denounce it, devalue it, distance themselves for it, but they KNOW. And it is the KNOWING that creates the crisis. It is the KNOWING that something no longer […]

10 Questions To Get You Moving Towards More Joy

Are you ready to create, grow, or do what you were born to do? A few days ago, I asked a powerful group of courageous, brilliant, truth-seeking women 10 important questions to help them prepare for the second quarter of 2021. Though very self-aware, their answers to my questions revealed they were not living their […]

Deep Down, You Already Know!

The world is shifting, and all of the shifts are encouraging me to think about my life. How about you? Do you find yourself thinking about a different life, a better life for you, and your loved ones? I mean… when you are all alone and just reflecting on the changes in the world, do […]

Rejection May Sting, But It Does Not Have To Stop You!

Do you know many people miss out on major opportunities, love, and happiness because they fear rejection? I don’t want to admit it, but over the years, I gave up a lot because I wanted to be liked and accepted. For example, when I was a little girl, I scored high on standardized tests and was […]

Don’t Get Trapped In The Web Of The Status Quo

Something or someone will always try to catch you, confine you, and control you. The more you live your truth and pull away from society’s claws, the more you will be pulled, pressured, and punished to conform. Despite your resolve to forge ahead and resist the gravitational pull of conformity, sometimes you will get stuck […]

You Know Enough To Help

February 12, 2021

So often we downgrade our skills and we belittle our potential because we perceive others as having greater authority or seniority than we have. Just for the record: Title and Time have nothing to do with TALENT! Don’t minimize what you bring to the table because you are not the boss, owner, or because you […]

Happy Black History Month!

February 2, 2021

My parents didn’t have much. They were just teenagers when they had my sister and me. Yet, they gave me something valuable. They taught me to love myself and reinforced my self-worth in a culture that insisted that I was nothing, dirty, and worthless. They exposed me to the power, the brilliance, and the beauty […]

I Know You Can Do It, But What’s Your Plan?

January 24, 2021

I am pretty blessed. I have a few friends that have weathered depression, divorce, disease, and displacement with me. I have friends who have celebrated graduations, successes, achievements, and breakthroughs with me. I am blessed with friends who loved me enough to provide constructive critique, invest in businesses, connect me with resources, and tell me […]

From Crisis To Collective Care

January 12, 2021

I hope you are well. I wanted to check on you because some of the events of last week were horrifying and frightening. Along with the rest of the world, we were stunned to watch an angry insurrectionist mob violently storm the United States Capitol building in Washington, DC. We were shocked as we watched people push […]

The Power Of Your Journey Comes From Sharing The Truth!

January 9, 2021

Are you showing and sharing the TRUTH? Even if your journey is hard, people who are willing to invest in themselves will join you. They will pull up their sleeves, pick up their pens, take off their pumps, remove their jackets, overcome their personal biases, and adjust their schedules to join you. But you must […]

What Can Your “Little” You Tell You About Your “Adult” Needs?

December 30, 2020

Can you believe that this is the last Sunday of 2020? So much happened in 2020, I almost lost track of time. As the year ends, I have one last question: Do you ever look at your childhood pictures? A few years ago, I saw a picture of me when I was 7. I looked deeply […]

I Reckon

December 22, 2020

I reckon. I reckon is a phrase that my elders used a lot. It was a phrase that did not mean “yes” or “no.” When someone said I “reckon,” it meant that they were thinking. Questioning. Considering. Pondering. Reflecting. During these last two weeks of December, maybe it’s time for us to reckon, too. Maybe […]

What Are You Building With?

October 11, 2020

No matter what you are building, you are always building something. But here’s the question: What are you using to build? If you build your home with rotten, 2nd-hand, flimsy wood, it won’t be able to withstand storms or withstand significant weight. It won’t have the capacity or durability. The same is true for building […]

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