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When Help Isn’t Healing: What I Learned About Support During My Sacred Season

Written by SharRon Jamison on June 18, 2025. Posted in Blog. No Comments on When Help Isn’t Healing: What I Learned About Support During My Sacred Season

Asking for help isn’t always easy. But learning to receive it—that’s an entirely different kind of courage.

How do I know?

Recently, I found myself navigating a difficult season physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I was sick, and for the first time in a long time, I had to lean on others more than I wanted to. I had to ask, trust, be vulnerable, expose my frailties, and let people into parts of my life that I usually don’t talk about.

While some people showed up with tenderness, patience, and care, others showed up with conditions, expectations, and ego. It was humbling, and honestly, it was heartbreaking.

But it also taught me a lesson I’m still carrying today: Not all help is healing.

The Hard Truth About “Help” is… When you’re in a vulnerable place, every offer of support can feel like a lifeline.

But here’s what I’ve also learned:

Some people offer help to feel useful, not to actually be of use.
Some offer support with invisible strings attached.
And some want access to your pain, not because they care, but because it gives them a story to share with others or a sense of control.

I had to admit that support like that didn’t feel good. In fact, it felt manipulative. It didn’t create peace; it added more pressure. And in those moments when I needed care the most, I had to make some soul-honoring decisions to protect my dignity, not just my body.

I thought my experience was unique, but in a recent conversation, I learned others had also struggled with asking for and receiving help that felt nourishing, safe, and loving. We also identified some factors that helped requesting and receiving assistance feel safer, more honoring, and extremely affirming.

We agree that help feels healing when there is….

Specificity. Specificity is vital. Be specific about what you need. If you can, think it through or tell people you really don’t know what you need, and let them help support you based on their understanding.
Capacity. Ask people who are emotionally, spiritually, or financially equipped to show up. Some people may not be, and that’s okay.
Trust. Trust is sacred. If someone has violated your boundaries before, they may not be the safest option to support you again.
Discernement. Discernment is protection. Just because someone can help doesn’t mean they should.
Mutuality. Mutuality matters. If someone keeps score or expects emotional repayment, it’s not generosity, it’s leverage.

So, if you’re in a season where you need help, or if you’re unsure about the help being offered, consider these:

Does this support make me feel seen, safe, and stronger?
Do I trust this person to honor my vulnerability without judgment or gossip?
Am I accepting help out of fear, guilt, or obligation?
Do I have the freedom to ask for the kind of help I actually want?

Let me be clear: You are not ungrateful for wanting nourishing help.

You are not selfish for refusing support that drains your spirit.

And you are not broken because you’ve struggled to ask for help in the past.

You are allowed to protect your peace. You are allowed to name your needs. You are allowed to receive help without surrendering your soul.

If this message resonates, I encourage you to check out my latest podcast episode, “When Help Isn’t Healing,” where I unpack this conversation more deeply. The podcast is available on Apple Podcast or you can listen on YouTube.

Thinking of you as you courageously ask for help.

SharRon

Now What?

Written by SharRon Jamison on October 12, 2022. Posted in Uncategorized. No Comments on Now What?

Last week I delivered a new keynote presentation to a group of high-performing, heart-centered folks over the age of 45. I prepared a specific speech for the audience, but the night before my presentation, my spirit told me to change the topic, and I did. And without notes or slides, I gave a presentation called NOW WHAT!

To me, NOW WHAT is an inquiry of unlimited potential because it challenges you to ask yourself honest questions about your deep-seated needs, dreams, and goals, especially after you reach midlife…a time in our lives that I call prime-time.

And the good news is…by the time you reach 50, 60, or 70, you have learned enough about yourself to recalibrate and reimagine your life. You have learned enough to live on your own terms and make your own rules.

Just think about it.

Haven’t you experienced a lot of ups and downs in your health, career, and relationships? And haven’t those experiences given you a deeper insight into who you are and what you need?

Haven’t you experienced enough grief, loss, and heartbreak to appreciate the meaning of life, love, and intimacy?

But haven’t you also enjoyed enough fulfillment, love, and joy to really understand what makes your heart sing?

And now, don’t you have enough money, results, and evidence to confirm your purpose, expertise, talents, abilities, and intuition?

If you are honest, over the last 40 years, you have gained an incredible amount of wisdom, clarity, and courage to do what you desire to do. And if you haven’t lived 40 years, the global pandemic has taught you new lessons about yourself and has given you many fresh revelations to consider.

So, the question is, NOW WHAT? Now that you know what’s real, right, beneficial, and fulfilling for this specific season in your life, what do you do now?

That question is a tough question, and it applies to all of us. And that’s why I believe my speech …. NOW WHAT ….. resonated because so many people realize that life is a beautiful, messy journey of learning, unlearning, relearning, and returning to what aligns with their heart and soul.

Based on the positive response to my presentation, I am holding a special NOW WHAT Retreat on November 18 and 19th to discuss how to address the NOW WHAT question in your own life. Click here to register.

Here’s the truth: Midlife is an incredible period in our lives; it’s a privilege because so many people never make it to 40, 50, 60, or 70. Not to sound morbid, but some people die before they ever experience and enjoy a fulfilling life because they limit themselves to only doing what they were taught, told, or felt obligated to do. Unfortunately, they settled or ignored their own happiness.

But thankfully, you can create a life that honors your deepest desires and your biggest dreams. You can make choices and take steps toward more happiness, joy, and ease. You don’t have the leave the world full of regrets because you can live a satisfying, exuberant, and soul-enriching life.

I am excited about what’s to come for you, and I would love for you to join me and other truth-seekers for the NOW WHAT Retreat. Click here to register.

Blessings,

SharRon

September Is the Month Of Completion

Written by SharRon Jamison on September 24, 2022. Posted in Uncategorized. No Comments on September Is the Month Of Completion

Happy September!

It’s the 9th month, and the number 9 symbolizes completion. For me, that’s exciting because it reminds me that I have fulfilled an important stage in my life and that I am ready for something new.

But even though embarking on something new sounds exciting, it can also feel daunting, especially when you are not accustomed to reflecting on your own needs, dreams, and mission.

So, how do you start something new?

First, by being honest with yourself about the quality of your life and discerning if its current structure serves your greatest good… YOUR truth.

Second, by accepting that your truth may have changed because you have grown from an experience, awakened to a new revelation, or healed from an old wound.

Third, by accepting that your new truth may be controversial, confrontational, and contradictory to the status quo. Yes, your new truth may ruffle a few feathers.

Finally, by accepting that your new truth requires new choices and actions because it’s challenging to make life-expanding moves with an old mindset.

So, if you are ready to embark on something new – something bigger, better, and bolder – consider these four critical pillars. And if you need any more motivation to launch out into something new, consider the following benefits:

Your truth will ensure that you stay well, stay whole, and feel worthy of everything you desire and deserve.

Your truth will safeguard you from succumbing to societal narratives, political lies, generational trauma, or gender norms that will stunt your growth or steal your joy.

Your truth will keep you aligned with your heart, help you stay attuned to your inner compass, and develop you toward the highest version of yourself.

Your truth will ensure that you don’t downplay your gifts or use your strengths in self-sabotaging ways.

Most of all, your truth will soften you so you feel safe, seen, and “surrendered” to your higher calling without constant compromise, unproductive comparison, and undue labor.

Essentially, your truth will anchor and prevent you from jeopardizing your dreams, which so many of us do when we prioritize the needs of others over our own.

As a coach and sojourner, I am exploring and considering some critical questions to help me discover and reclaim MORE of my truth. In this season of my life, I want to deeply connect with my TRUTH to expand my capacity to stay open to possibility, follow my inner compass, and welcome divine connections. Maybe these questions will support you if you are also in a season of self-discovery and self-activation.

DareTo Soar Higher Questions:

Where in my life am I pretending to be something I am not?
Where am I erasing or diluting myself to fit into spaces, and why?
What lights me up and lightens my load?
What tickles my fancy and makes me feel free?
What increases my belief in myself and in a greater power?
How can I become more sovereign and less swayed by the opinions, triggers, and expectations of others?
What’s the unadulterated truth about who I am and what I want?
Where do I need to give myself more permission to explore and execute?
Why do I conform and comply with practices or beliefs that don’t align with my divine path?
Where am I giving unappreciated labor and love, and why?
Where am I forfeiting my integrity, dignity, and mental health?

How do I know if I am being called to do something if I don’t have experience doing it?

Great questions, right?

I know that following your truth will activate you and help you contribute something magical to the world. And the best news is when you follow your truth, you will feel less burdened and obligated to make others happy, and that’s freedom.

So, do yourself a favor. Ask yourself questions, nurture your needs, own your power, pursue your ambition, speak with integrity, and rest your body. Let your truth bring you the fulfillment you crave and the freedom you deeply desire. Because as all know, the TRUTH will set you free.

Blessings!