Author: SharRon Jamison

Yes, our “ships” influence and affect our lives. It does not matter if it is a partnership, fellowship, companionship, mentorship, sponsorship, relationship, distributorship, friendship, citizenship, “situationship”, and the list goes on…our lives are touched and shaped by others. Even when we are not aware of it, we are somehow informed, energized, challenged, or repulsed by the words and ways of others.   Everybody leaves an impression, good or bad,  in our lives.

Because our connections are critical, it is vital that we analyze who we spend time with, who we seek wisdom from, and who we allow in our intimate space. And as we elevate our lives or shift our priorities, we may need to adjust and re-adjust where and with whom we spend our time and share our energy.

Let’s be honest. That’s hard for some of us. Evaluating or repositioning our relationships brings up all types of emotional baggage, feelings of abandonment, and childhood triggers. That’s why we sometimes stay tethered to connections that are toxic, abusive, and lifeless.

Here is something to consider: Making adjustments or analyzing your relationships does NOT mean that you don’t love or like people.

Adjusting and evaluating your relationships mean that are you committed to your OWN growth, self-care, and elevation. It means that you are being intentional about your time because you NEED new experiences, different information, and increased exposure to opportunities, so you can plan, position, and prepare yourself for what’s NEXT in your life. Scrutinizing your connections means that you are cognizant that you have limited time and only so much energy and that everyone you connect with must be beneficial and fruitful to your life.  Essentially, ensuring that you are surrounded and supported by a healthy network is an act of SELF LOVE!

Here is the bottom line: Growth does NOT happen in isolation, in stagnation, or in the wrong congregation. Growth happens in stimulating and safe environments that are replete with rich diversity, great dialogue, and vigorous debate.

That’s why we NEED conversations that challenge our thinking. We need to attend events that expand our minds, touch our souls, and frame our dreams. We need to be pushed, pulled, and poured into in ways that increase our competence, capacity, and our curiosity. We need connections that hold us responsible and accountable for HIGH standards.

We need to SEE and EXPERIENCE MORE because our lives develop or diminish based on what we know, what we think, what we do, and what we are exposed to.

What’s the take-home message? We can’t SOAR if we don’t know MORE!

That approach sounds simple but learning and doing MORE demand that we develop relationships for where we are going, not where we are now.

As you enter the 4th Quarter of 2020, and before you make another resolution, take inventory of your connections.  Find a quiet place and start with 3 simple questions.

1. How is this connection helping me SEE me better, differently, or fuller?
2. How is this connection supporting me now, who I am becoming, and my vision for the future?
3. How is this connection strengthening, stretching, or shifting me?

Our relationships are our greatest resources. So, pay attention. Choose relationships that grow you up, grow you out, and grow you within. That way you can be better equipped to SOAR Higher.

Let me hear from you. Please leave a message below.

Let’s Dare To Soar Higher!

SharRon

Ask anyone who has ever achieved any success and they will tell you that the 3 things that they had to confront and conquer were issues related to racism, religion, and societal rules.

Why? Because all 3 are based on “shoulds” and prevent you from being who you were created to be.

Racism, religion, and societal rules attempt to limit your choices, make you second-guess your inner wisdom, and cause you to undermine your worth.

How do I know? I let a few “shoulds” shrink my life. And when I finally had the courage to do what I wanted to do, the “shoulds” tried to shame and stifle me. But guess what? I did what I wanted to do.

I married who I wanted to marry and lost tons of friends and my family. I challenged racist policies in corporate America and lost a few promotions. I stopped climbing the corporate ladder to pursue the ministry and people called me crazy. And when I endorsed marriage equality, I lost a few preaching engagements!

I honored my heart, and I did what was right for me; I didn’t follow the “shoulds”. I reclaimed and restructured my life so I could do meaningful work in the corporate space, pursue my calling in the ministry, write books to challenge social paradigms, and start heart-centered businesses to support other women.

I finally started getting out of my head worrying about what other people thought and into my heart so that I could trust myself. I DID Me…mistakes and all!

You can “DO” you, too. You don’t have to live a “shouldy” life. You can be FREE to do what you want to do!

After coaching and mentoring many high-performing women, what I know for sure is that too many women are miserable because they feel trapped by “shoulds”! They are staying in jobs, in churches, in relationships, and in lifestyles that are stealing their peace. They are doing what everybody else wants them to do and not what they want or feel called to do.

If you don’t believe me, ask a few of your friends if they are happy or fulfilled. And then ask them why. I bet their responses will have something to do with race, religion, or societal rules.

If you are ready to ditch the “shoulds” so you can live honestly and openly, I want to invite you to Unshackled: Desires, Dreams, and Destiny.

In an intimate setting with other high-performing women,  we will examine the origins of “shoulds” and identify how “shoulds’ are stealing your joy and shrinking your life.

This is what I know for sure: “shoulds” make you settle, struggle, and suffer. But when you do what you want to do, you can radically transform your life and create a life that makes your heart sing!

 Unshackled: Desires, Dreams, and Destiny will cover 4 Key Areas.

• How to have better “I” Sight so you can see who you are unencumbered by “shoulds”. You are more amazing than you realize, and when you see yourself through the lens of potential and possibility, you will create a life that most reflects who you are and who you are becoming.
• How to have greater illumination so you can better identify ways to increase your capacity to enjoy your desires, pursue your dreams, and fulfill your destiny. Trust me. Identifying your unconscious beliefs, dismantling old paradigms, and shedding old programming will help you unleash your gifts, ignite your passion, and bring peace to your soul.
• How to discern what types of interactions support you. You will have an opportunity to talk about friendship. Let’s face it. We all need people in our lives to support and love us; none of us thrives well in isolation. But choosing people who provide a safe place for you to grow and explore your full personality, allows you to celebrate your worth and honor your individuality.
• How to implement what you learn so that you can increase your ability to live a bolder, fuller, and more honest life. In the safety of a small, intimate group, you can share without judgment, and without apology knowing that women can hold space for your authenticity and truth.  And in that knowing, you will have an opportunity to address whatever is holding your back from full self-expression and massive joy.

If you are ready to love who you want to love, do what you want to do, and believe what you want to believe, join me. 

You don’t have to live a “shouldy” life.

We are starting in a few weeks! There are only 15 spots.

DM or send me a message at SharRon@SharRonJamison.com for more information or you can register below.

Click here to register.

Please forgive my delay. It took a moment to collect my thoughts.  I had to pray and reflect on what I wanted to say and how I wanted to say it.

Honestly, I can NOT express everything that I am feeling in this one email. Like you, my heart is heavy.

 My heart is full of many emotions. I feel grief, anger, sadness, resentment, rage, disappointment, exhausted, and hopelessness. I feel passion, commitment, and energized. I feel many emotions, some even conflict with others. 

You may also have complex, contradictory emotions. Nobody has a script on how to manage and endure injustice. 

So what do you do?

Here is my prayer for you.  Do you! Do whatever you feel is right for YOU! You don’t need validation, authorization, or authentication to feel your feelings, or to do what you need to do FOR YOU!

 You can cry and cuss! You can vent and pray. You can protest or volunteer. You can donate money, time, or expertise. You can rest and re-set.  You can strategize and build. DO YOU!

 What we are facing is hard stuff. Not one of us will manage or experience this situation the same.

 For me, as an African American woman and as a mom, the fight is exhausting, gut-wrenching, and stress-inducing.  And I know that the fight will NOT end soon.

 Why?

 Nobody gives up power, profits, and privilege easily.  Only consistent pressure and persistent pain–political and financial –will affect change. And trust me. The pressure to do what is right and fair will be met with all forms of resistance; history proves that so be prepared.

 So, during this lengthy battle against this systemic, sadistic, damnable disease called racism, you will need to rest and reengage many times. So, please take care of yourself.

 When you are ready and rested, take part in the revolution in a way that works for you — your skills, your abilities, and your sanity. Don’t guilt yourself or shame yourself. 

 Remember,  ONLY you KNOW what’s best for you!

 I made a brief video to support you. Click here. It’s less than 5 min. long.

 Please know that I am here for you and with you.

 I am fighting right by your side and with all of our allies–irrespective of their color, age, ability, gender, sexual orientation, faith traditions, or color.

 If people are committed to liberty and justice for ALL, I am on board. I am ready to sit and dine at the table of mutuality, respect, and honor.

 If people are unwilling to be fair, respectful, and equitable, I am ready to be on the battlefield for justice for as long as it takes. 

 Let’s be honest. This fight for equality and justice won’t be over soon, but it will be won.   It will be won through blood, tears, defiance, volunteerism, contributions, protests, honesty, policies, forgiveness, and more.

 Until then, fight, rest, and re-engage in your own way until freedom rings.  We got this!

 Let’s Dare To Soar Higher TOGETHER!

 Blessing to you,

 SharRon

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Am I the only one who has ever failed? Of course not! 

We all fail!

But….

Most people don’t want to share their fiascos, failures or flops. Most don’t want to share where and how they stumbled, stopped or self-sabotaged. Most want to hide their mistakes. They want to shine and give the impression that success, transformation, and growth were easy and stress-free.

But that’s not the truth. In fact, life is a collection of good and bad experiences.  And when we KNOW that life includes both the good and the bad, we cope better. We don’t get sidelined by adversity or discouraged by challenges.

That’s why I believe it is important to share the truth about our wins AND wounds. If you really want to help people stay encouraged, they need to know the reality of success and elevation. People need the truth, not curated highlight reels that promise instant fame and fortune.

That’s why I believe that sharing our stars and our scars is key. People need to see that we have blessings and burdens, triumphs and tragedies, guts and goofs, successes and sorrows, highs and lows, fear and faith, and friends and foes.  People need, want and are helped by seeing and knowing it ALL, not just the part we want them to see.

I have learned that letting people see my struggles, sacrifices and sometimes my sadness lets me connect with people in ways that transform, inform and reform me and them. Sharing it ALL helps and heals me, and it helps others who can testify and relate that my experience is their experience too.  Sharing connects and corrects.

So, when tempted to hide your failures – and nothing is a failure – what will you do?

Here are a few questions to consider:

As we all are re-building, reimagining, and re-prioritizing our lives, how are you sharing your wisdom?

How are you sharing your failures without judging yourself?

How are you providing insight so that others can avoid the same pitfalls?

How are you allowing others to see the REAL journey so they can learn?

How are you sharing your losses and the lessons so that to propel others forward?

How are you sharing your stories to support others?

What I have learned…our stories may be the stories that save lives. It may just be the story people need to heal and to stay encouraged as they journey through life. (from the upcoming book, I Have Learned A Few More Things).

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Let’s Dare to Soar Higher Together!

Blessings!

SharRon